I think the cat in the cradle feeling is probably pretty universal for parents as they face their children entering adulthood and reflect on missed opportunities. I certainly had that, looking back on things I missed as the kids grew up. Some of them due to the nature of my job in law enforcement, others due to choices I made as I built a career. Over winter break of DS' senior year of college, we took a family vacation and rented a house near in beach in SoCal. It was a fantastic time. First trip with both kids as adults and we didn't have to be "parents". we were able to relax and just enjoy each other. Listening to the kids' childhood memories as we played games together, I realized DW and I didn't do it perfect, but we did okay and the kids felt like they had a good childhood. Topper for me was DS and I taking the dog for a walk on the beach. Stopped at a local brewery for some to-go refreshments. Had a long talk as we walked, about his excitement and his fears as he moved towards commissioning. He told me that he admired me and I was his role model. Said he admired the way I looked out for those I was responsible for and worked to make them successful. For me, that was the highest praise possible, those words from my son. Excuse me, my allergies are acting up as I type this.