Academymom5
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My child is at a preparatory school but is reconsidering the Academy. Can she apply to other academies or colleges? How does that work? She is afraid to tell prep school dean.
Time for her to adult up. My mom would have said, “Let me know how that talk goes. Love you.” The key thing is she is moving purposefully toward something and not running away from something.My child is at a preparatory school but is reconsidering the Academy. Can she apply to other academies or colleges? How does that work? She is afraid to tell prep school dean.
Time for her to adult up. My mom would have said, “Let me know how that talk goes. Love you.” The key thing is she is moving purposefully toward something and not running away from something.
The service academies factor in prep school attrition in their intake calculations every year. She should think through her rationale, be ready to express it, show she is thinking clearly and realizes she doesn’t think it’s a good two-way fit for for her at an SA, military service, whatever. Then express appreciation for the fill-in-blank things she has experienced at prep school X. Finally, outline plans to apply elsewhere and her research to date.
The Dean and staff have heard it all, dealt with it all. She should think it through, own the decision and move on. She can still go through the process of applying to an SA and decide later if she is offered an appointment. If she steps away from that SA process completely, then she’s made up her mind. Watch what she does, not what she says. That helps in determining if this is transient or permanent disaffection.
Learning how to have difficult adult conversations is something you have no doubt prepared her to do, so just cheer her on.
Ya that’s also a common thing. So add to your searching ‘surviving a gf/bf’ and how to support lolThanks. She does not plan to quit the prep school. She wants to apply for other options (other academies/rotc with regular college) for next year. Ps also a boyfriend that is in regular school far away and surprise, she wants to apply to schools near him. But it’s not “because” of him Mom. Hmmmm.
I think it’s fair for preppies to have a plan B. Your appointment is not guaranteed at this point. It’s also possible to sustain an injury as a preppie that disqualifies you for SA, not common but it happens.My child is at a preparatory school but is reconsidering the Academy. Can she apply to other academies or colleges? How does that work? She is afraid to tell prep school dean.