I check in here every so often as my
second son is complete pending review and each time this thread is right at the top.
Quite frankly, this thread is not helpful and needs to disappear. As much as I appreciate these forums-this is the exact type of thread that will keep others away and parents frightened that their child could be harmed in some way by a phone call. It's so disheartening to see so many people judging others-people should feel free to call, not call, help, not help-this is America.
Is there any way for moderators to delete this or put it elsewhere so folks who are wondering about the process, can actually learn about the process of applying to a SA?
May I respectfully express another perspective? I think discussions like this ARE part of the process, creating topics for conversation for candidates and families as an exercise in practicing critical thinking and determining what makes sense for their own path, their own values, their own parenting style. I think many wrestle with how much or how little, in what ways, to be a part of the process. There are a wide variety of opinions, some from those very close to the official process. That's just what they are, opinions, in a public forum in a country with free speech. Sample, ignore, contemplate, say "aha," or "no way" to the heart's content.
I recently read some history from Revolutionary era. There were free-for-all discussions, blazing rhetoric and some serious yelling that happened in the Continental Congresses; this thread would seem very tame. Plenty o' judgin' back then, plenty of ways to say things one way that are taken in another, today.
To paraphrase a sensible (as judged by me) comment above, people should feel free to read, not read, help, not help - this is indeed America.
I think readers of this particular thread will be capable of discerning there is wide disagreement on nature and degree of parental involvement, advisability thereof. They can figure it out from there.