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Discussion in 'Military Academy - USMA' started by Jenn_30, Mar 25, 2009.

  1. Jenn_30

    Jenn_30 Member

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    My parents don't want me to go to SLS. My Mom is worried about me being safe and she really, really dosen't want me to be in the army. If I let them read this can anyone tell them how great this will be for me and will really help me make a decision to go to West Point.
     
  2. flyersboy114

    flyersboy114 USAFA Cadet

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    Read what? This thread or the whole site? The whole site would be great information for them to help learn about USMA
     
  3. Jenn_30

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    Well both. I've tried to get them to look at this site before, but they haven't. We are trying to talk about it now, but I was really hoping someone had some advice.
     
  4. flyersboy114

    flyersboy114 USAFA Cadet

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    Sorry, I dont really. My parents were accepted my decision well, probably because I told them when I was in third grade and havent stopped since. What I would do is show them this, and go to the Goarmy.com page. They have a parents page. That should help some. Good luck! If this is what you really want, I dont understand how they could say no.
     
  5. Just_A_Mom

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    Going to SLS does not obligate you to go to West Point.
    It is a Leadership Seminar - not Army basic training. Regardless of which path you choose going to SLS will benefit you.

    True, you may go to SLS and decide the Army is not for you - you have a whole year to learn and grow and explore your options.
    Regardless, if you ever become a cadet, West Point is an amazing place and full of history. It would be awesome for any high school rising senior to attend and learn about the Army, our Country's history and leadership.
     
  6. Antoinette

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    It is a leadership camp. get them to take you and visit the area if you are close enough.
     
  7. Jenn_30

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    They are letting me go! I sent in my papers yesterday. I'm going to Session 2!
     
  8. Just_A_Mom

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    Good for you! Have fun! Will they travel to West Point as well?
     
  9. Jenn_30

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    Probably. My Dad is nervous about me flying by myself and I think that they want to see the campus anyway. I kinda want them to go so they can talk to some people themselves.
     
  10. America's Finest

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    You need to have a talk with them and tell them that in one year you will be going off to college and start being independent so they should start trusting you more and letting you do things like this to prepare you for the real world.
     
  11. flyersboy114

    flyersboy114 USAFA Cadet

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    Congrats Jenny, now start working them on you actually attending just in case you are accepted for '14. Good Luck :thumb:
     
  12. Maximus

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    Wait a few years and see if you have that same advice about your 16 or 17 year old daughter. :biggrin:
     
  13. America's Finest

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    Maybe if it was my daughter I'll give you that one :rolleyes:

    But as for a son, if he's trying to get into a college as good as USMA then I'd say I did my job pretty well and its time to sink or swim for him. To put it bluntly "time to cut the umbilical cord".
     
  14. Just_A_Mom

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    Hmmm. There are plenty of kids from across the country who will transport themselves to SLS sans parents. Nothing at all wrong with this. Many kids these days have had opportunities to and are well versed in travel.
    Kids who have never flown or traveled much may be more comfortable traveling with a parent.

    The only reason I suggest that and am pleased that one or both of Jenn_30's parents accompany her is because they are hesitant to even allow her to apply.
    It has nothing to do with her being female.....

    Of course, applying and attending is Jenn_30's decision, especially after she turns 18 - however, it is important, IMO, that the parents are supportive.

    In this case the opportunity of the parent to go and visit may inform then about West Point and ease their discomfort. I would have given the same suggestion had Jenn_30 been male. Whatever the reason the parent(s) have for attending is a good one, in this case.
     
  15. kaullman

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    Spot On

    Congrats Jenn_30! Enjoy the experience. Having a parent get a feel for the Academy can be extremely helpful to their comfort with what will be your decision.

    As the dad of a female 2007 USNA grad (Aeronautical Engineering) currently in the Helo Pilot pipeline, I'm still surprised by some who would treat others differently, simply because of their gender. Each person is an individual, and their gender is NOT an indicator of how each must be protected.
     
  16. Maximus

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    While I agree with your first statement, I do have a daughter and it was hard as a father, to allow his "little girl" go :biggrin:
    If she saw that last statement I made, she'd laugh out loud! :yllol:
    She's 19 now and fiercely independent! The definition of independence for cripes sake! She's been breaking horses since she was 13, and I've had to sit idly by while my wife encouraged her dangerous equestrian (English, Western and Barrel) lifestyle! After high school, she turned down college (thank goodness she's talking about going again now seeing her brother getting the spotlight now...) and went to work as a vet assistant immediately and moved out....down the street but....had to be on her own! She is here everyday to work on her horses, again...she insists on being independent. lol

    My son has no problem flying alone, he flew to NASS alone at just turned 16, and has been driving his own car since 15 1/2. We tag along with his permission lol

    It's a tough decision to fly with your kids to NASS or SLS unless you've got got the free time and want to tour West Point or Annapolis for a week. I personally would rather fly there a day or two before they are due to have the ending ceremony, and walk around then. Your child may or may not be appointed and there will be plenty of time to tour over the next few years. You very well might be back for an overnight shadow visit in a few months so you might want to spread out the visits.
     
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    How about fly in w/ them for SLS, then take the train into the city for the rest of the week! :rolleyes:
     
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    It takes time

    Sometimes it takes time for parents to come around, especially if they were growing up in the era of Vietnam. Yet most do come around. Just follow your dream also if you remind them (gently) that once you turn 18 you can always enlist, they mat see an SA as a better choice.:thumb::thumb:
     
  19. Maximus

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    I started doing the logistics on this and potentially a parent that accompanies their kid, can potentially go back and forth to West Point a realistic 5 round trips their first year. SLS, Overnight visit, "R" day, "A" day and Parent Plebe Weekend...right?
     
  20. Just_A_Mom

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    yep - you can actually visit them nearly any weekend. Football games are great weekends to visit West Point and see your Cadet. If they don't have a pass they at least have walking privileges. I live close enough so I can make a day trip of it.

    Some parents go up for the Marchback - which is really cool but you can't visit with your New Cadet. I went back and forth but some go and spend a few days in NYC between the Marchback and A-Day.
     

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