My son is struggling academically in his Freshman Year....

SueRI said:
LITS...yup, you're right. He needs to take care of business and get his name off of that list. His dad understands that.
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His dad doesn't want to baby him by intervening and pulling strings. He wants him to have serious consequences and take responsibility.
 
Wonderfulmom said:
His dad doesn't want to baby him by intervening and pulling strings. He wants him to have serious consequences and take responsibility.
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That is the perfect response. Hard stance to take, but absolutely the right way to deal with it. Well done.
 
Wonderfulmom said:
His dad doesn't want to baby him by intervening and pulling strings. He wants him to have serious consequences and take responsibility.
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As LITS said, there are really no strings to be pulled. AcPro is not subjective, you are on it or you are not. Your GPA falls below X you are notified and it is administrative in nature. If your GPA is below Y - depending on what year you are in at the Academy, you might face a board. Typically you will face restrictions of some kind though the restrictions are meant to focus you on academics, not as a form of punishment.

As a prospective officer, responsibility and consequences are part of his life and as hard as it is as a parent to see your kid struggle, often the best thing you can do for them is to be a willing listener, as they mature, they really don't expect you to fix things for them.

Good luck to your son, sometimes the things that teach us the most are those things that challenge us.
 
Update: His academic adviser didn't say he couldn't go, but he has to get his instructors to sign off on it, so it's just a maybe. We are letting him work it out.
 
kinnem said:
I'm sure you know the old saw about what they call a med school student who gets all Ds after graduation? Doctor.
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Probably important to mention that cadets need better than a 2.0 average….. which is a C…. not a D…..

We always said "D for Done"…. and then I realized I needed higher than a 2.0…..
 
I missed the post about his dad's retirement. If he's grades are as bad as they seem to be from your posts (I know he failed one, just not sure what the other grades were), and he's on academic probation, his focus HAS to be on school. Trying to work out the approval process to go home for a retirement is a distraction.

Honestly, I'm sure your husband can attest to this, in a service you'll miss more than your share of important events. I missed a wedding I was a groomsman in (luckily the groom was an Army officer who understood) and I missed a funeral.
 
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LineInTheSand said:
I missed the post about his dad's retirement. If he's grades are as bad as they seem to be from your posts (I know he failed one, just not sure what the other grades were), and he's on academic probation, his focus HAS to be on school. Trying to work out the approval process to go home for a retirement is a distraction.

Honestly, I'm sure your husband can attest to this, in a service you'll miss more than your share of important events. I missed a wedding I was a groomsman in (luckily the groom was an Army officer who understood) and I missed a funeral.
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I agree in theory, but it IS an important event in our lives and I am sure that neither one of them would listen to me anyway, so....
 
Wonderfulmom said:
I agree in theory, but it IS an important event in our lives and I am sure that neither one of them would listen to me anyway, so....
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If he fails out, that other important event, graduating from the Coast Guard Academy, also wouldn't happen. Retirements are nice, I've taken part in a number, but the reality of the situation is, he has to buckle down and do much better if he wants to stay at CGA.

You said he was close in Chemistry. Any idea what the final grade was in that class, or what is GPA is? An F with all As isn't as bad as an F with a D and C- and C- and C.
 
LineInTheSand said:
If he fails out, that other important event, graduating from the Coast Guard Academy, also wouldn't happen. Retirements are nice, I've taken part in a number, but the reality of the situation is, he has to buckle down and do much better if he wants to stay at CGA.

You said he was close in Chemistry. Any idea what the final grade was in that class, or what is GPA is? An F with all As isn't as bad as an F with a D and C- and C- and C.
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I think he got a B, C, D (Chemistry) and F (Calculus).
 
LineInTheSand said:
If he fails out, that other important event, graduating from the Coast Guard Academy, also wouldn't happen. Retirements are nice, I've taken part in a number, but the reality of the situation is, he has to buckle down and do much better if he wants to stay at CGA.

You said he was close in Chemistry. Any idea what the final grade was in that class, or what is GPA is? An F with all As isn't as bad as an F with a D and C- and C- and C.
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He had a 1.8
 
He beat my first semester GPA at USNA! I rebounded from that horrible first semester and did just fine. I even made Dant's list a few times and was never on academic probation again. He will figure it out, the large majority do.
 
curious as to DS overall feeling...did he enjoy his 1st semester away from home?? is he looking forward to the 2nd semester??
 
SueRI said:
curious as to DS overall feeling...did he enjoy his 1st semester away from home?? is he looking forward to the 2nd semester??
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I believe you'd be hard pressed to find many that will say they "enjoyed" their first semester it first year even. I'm sure there are a few but for most it's a tough transition that they are very glad to have behind them come May.
 
It is a different roller coaster for all. Some hate it and talk about disenrolling first semester. Others are fine first semester, then contemplate disenrolling second semester. That pattern can continue past the first year. Not easy being a parent of a kid at a service academy at times. It doesn't get easier for them. They get better at handling the classes and all the other stuff as time goes by.
 
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