kpbaseballmom,
Of the ones I know...
Commandant - USNA grad, went into the Marine Corps, have no idea what rank he attained. I would say that (when I was there) the majority of the regiment liked him. He was approachable, realistic and adapted himself into the school. It also helps that he was at KP for a long time as a coach and knew what was going on and what we did. He took time to get himself on the water and somewhat see what it is that we actually do.
Before I get into the CO's, let me just briefly mention what I think a good CO is and does. Remember, CO in this instance is not Commanding Officer, but rather Company Officer. There is a big difference in that one is actually part of the chain of command and one is not. On paper, the regimental system at KP is setup so that the CO's are not supposed to be involved with the daily running of the regiment, except if things get way out of hand (and I don't constitute long sideburns as "out of hand"). They are there to provide the open door that is a mid's first step outside of fellow midshipmen to go to, if they have a concern, problem etc. They should set the eample without making an example. Last but definitely not least, they should be familiar with the school, its mission and the general career that graduates will typically follow. I had a couple great CO's at KP but also a couple not so great.
First Company CO's (GYSGT and CAPT) - These are two active duty Marines that technically are just the USMC liasions to KP, just as every other service has its own liasion (none of which involve themselves with the regiment though). While they are no doubt fine Marines and respected for that, their leadership style just doesn't fit (in my opinion) in with the training needed to be a succesful merchant marine officer. From what I saw, they showed little interest in learning what it is we do and expected us to just blindly conform to their USMC-way of handling things. They were not that approachable and just entering their office required a 12-step process. So, it was all of this and in the meantime, they had little clue on what was going on (as pointed out at the end of my last post).
I would also like to point out again that the predecessor to these two was a MSGT who, while he also started out "full-bore", eventually adapted himself and his leadership style to conform more to the mission of the school. He scored big points from the regiment, particularly First Co. for doing so. Things ran much smoother. Funny thing is that he was definitely more of what would be considered a true combat Marine, through and through.
And, last but certainly not least....
Reg Officer / Third Co CO / Former Fourth Co CO / Former GYSGT but now LCDR - This gentleman has been at KP for quite some time. He has also earned himself quite the reputation. While I personally did not have many one-on-one run-ins with him and never lived under his reign (at least directly), his thunder was felt by all. I'll pass on any opinion of him and let others who were more, uh, "familiar" with him form one of their own.
To be clear, none of this has anything to do with the USMC as a service and these individuals as being fine servicemen. There certainly is room at KP for them to have a presence, just as every other service does. However, I just don't think the leadership style that is typical and expected in the USMC is condusive to the training of a martime officer (I'll address the military officer component in a bit).
As jasperdog pointed out, civilian mariners are very different than enlisted servicemen. While there may be room to "dress-down" a sailor on a Navy ship with hundrds of people onboard, you simply can't act that way on a merchant ship with civilian, unionized mariners. I have yet to personally see a captain, chief engineer, chief mate, etc. yell or lose their cool on ANYONE at sea. We have small crews in relativley confined quarters and there is simply no room for that kind of behavior and it sets a bad example for the younger officers. The same guy who stands lookout on my watch, is the same one handling lines on my end during maneuvering, is the same guy on my fire team and can literally screw over my career and license (and the captain's) very easily. We have to have cohesion and trust in each other. If the captain or chief has a problem with someone, he'll meet with him privately. In First Company at KP, yelling was a daily occurrence, often followed by IT. As a first classman, this certainly didn't further my leadership development.
As for the military training aspect, from what I learned and saw at my first AT in San Diego, the Navy loves us because we don't have that typical, full-time military background and oo-rah leadership style. In fact, they are always so curious and in awe that we run similar-sized and even larger vessels with a tiny fraction of the manpower. Let me tell you that it doesn't happen because we go off on our sailors on a daily basis (not that they do either, nevertheless that kind of behavior doesn't help). Two USS ships right now have full civilian engine crews (with a lot less people needed) and the Navy is looking to do similar downsizing in their deck departments. They are turning to merchant mariners for consultation in this matter.
In short, I think what sets KP (and its graduates) apart from its counterparts at the other maritime schools and service academies is that we have both the technical skills and knowledge, along with real-world experience and responsibility (all before graduation) to lead people successfully whether it's on a ship, tug, warship, whatever. The leadership at KP needs to build the mids (especially the 1/C) up from that experience - not making me do push-ups because my sideburns are a half-inch too long. No offense to the USMC but, frankly, I don't think they're the right people for that job. KP is not Annapolis and none of us want it to be.
And yes, there have been plenty of CO's that were either graduates or had at least sailed at some point. They maintain a much lower presence though and only intervene when appropriate and conducive to the learning environment.