Just_A_Mom
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If one really wanted to be on the top of the OML, he or she could go to a community college that is a cross town affiliate to maintain a 4.0 and then go to a "easy" for the next two years. At this point, the Army just looks at the straight number.I was told by several PMS's that the final OML to decide branch, AD/reserves, etc gives no 'weight' or benefits to which school/major programthat is the most 'rigorous'. They told me that I could go to the hardest/most academically challenging school I could and exited with a GPA of 3.1. Even if I had almost killed myself for this 3.1 it would be on a level playing field(as in my 3.1 would receive no extra OML points because my school was 'rigorous'.) with the 3.95 from the 'easiest' school in the country. So from a statistical approach, a 'hard' school would be almost hurting your Army potential
Pima,
this is getting a bit like a sorority fight, but I am a bit puzzled by what appears to be rather judgmental and condescending tone of yours. Furthermore, all this is done NOT because I have been rude or insulting to others on this forum, but because you disapprove of the way I operate in my family vis a vis my own child.
I have explained numerous times that my son makes all the key decisions and I am supplying additional data points for him to consider as a consultant. If you insist that that is not the case, and I am this helicopter parent hell bent on molding my son to my ideal and refusing to let go of him, there is nothing further that I can say. Obviously you know something about this family that we have no idea what you are talking about. Please understand that different families operate on different wavelength, and there is such a thing as a VERY INVOLVED parent who nonetheless lets the child make all the key decision. If you have never seen this model work, well, then, what can I say.... (by the way, I have been COMPLETELY hands off when it comes to my son's school work, future career choice, ECs, time management, choice of friends, clubs, and what not)
Just suffices to say, this is not my first child. With first kid whose desired path (corporate world) is something that I am intimately familiar with, I am operating more or less as a career mentor to him. For instance, he comes to me with questions on how best to contact an influential alum for a summer job, and I advise him on the best opening moves, etc. He discusses his graduate school options, and I help him chart his course, because I have done exactly that twenty some years ago, and I know how the industry operates in his chosen field. In my career, I have always played a role of a mentor to promising young people, and I am doing the same for my own son.
Now, for my second son, I knew nothing about his chosen path, and I am making a lot of effort to learn as much as I can so that I can be on the same wavelength with him, so that I can advise him intelligently, so that I can understand what he will be going through, so that I can see where I can bring value. He has a parent with decades of life experience in a professional world who is very good at putting together a long term strategy given the right and enough data. So, it will be a shame if he does not benefit from that, won't it?
It so happens that I have great relationship with both of my kids and they are very receptive to consultation and advice I provide to them. They don't take it as a "forcing", they take it as a good source of useful advice. And, as limited as their life experience has been, they have had ample opportunities to verify that I actually give them very good advice that made a huge difference and they are mature enough to value it. And, I am happy to be a useful adult mentor to my kids, not just as a parent
I don't think this is such an aberrant behavior as a parent to receive such a public scorn.
I have seen your posts and you are very helpful, and I thank you for them. I am sure you will continue to make excellent posts and I will continue to benefit from your wisdom. However, we all can have a bit less stressful discussion if there are not so many judgmental and condescending statements casually dished out at others with different style and modus of operandi.
You are a very influential voice on this forum, so your tone carries a lot of weight. it would be great if your tone is a bit kinder and less judgmental so people can freely exchange thoughts and ideas without running the risk of being ridiculed publicly. Please note that for every question I raise here, there may be a few or many more who may have had a same question but did not, for whatever reason, raise it, but benefited nonetheless from the ensuing discussion and replies. (I get PMs to this effect).
Overall this forum has been a life saver. And, you are an amazing source of information, wisdom, and experience. I hope to continue to benefit from your good will in sharing all that you know with us the clueless. Meanwhile, I will do my best to contribute to this community by sharing what little I know. I made a point of posting whatever I learned through my own research on this forum, and I will continue to do so. It's only fair that I do my share of making this forum a very helpful place for those who will go through this process next time.
I think this request is completely unreasonable. How else are we to know what a great job other parents have done with their children? Personally I am so impressed with the parenting critiquing on this site that I am considering posting intimate details of my sex life (including pics) in hopes of receiving some equally valuable advice. Just saying.....can we please refrain from criticizing other people's parenting style?
Pima I believe that you are just being an informed parent. I too am in a similar situation. My son has also applied for the NROTC scholarship and to the 5 schools. We have not heard back from the selection boards neither. He has heard back from his first choice school and was accepted. The only problem is that it is private and very costly. He has Florida Prepaid and will also get bright futures to help. I can not afford to help a great deal more and he is wanting to take out loans which can add up to over $100, 000. He has applied to instate schools where he can get a full ride with no student loans. He is wanting a degree in Engineering and I couldn't be priouder but I do not want to see him come out of school with such a heavy burden of the loans. When I try to have him weigh alll of the options he gets a little defensive. I realize it is his final descision but I feel that if I do not give him some advice I am failing as a parent. I am hoping that if he also gets accepted to other schools he will consider all of his options. Any one have ideas, I would appreciate it.
I think this request is completely unreasonable. How else are we to know what a great job other parents have done with their children? Personally I am so impressed with the parenting critiquing on this site that I am considering posting intimate details of my sex life (including pics) in hopes of receiving some equally valuable advice. Just saying...
Do you think we could put together a "how to" guide and request that it be a sticky?Maybe a new forum, 'How to sire a sir"?
Do you think we could put together a "how to" guide and request that it be a sticky?
how about an engineering degree? What good does it do when one is commissioned as an officer. If it can be useful later in a different position, wouldn't it loose some shelf life, given how fast technology is evolving? How about other science fields like biology and chemistry? How about math? Well, does any major matter at all as a career officer? How about a female with an engineering or science degree as an officer? What kind of Army career options are available to her? I understand female officers are not given a combat role...
Do you think we could put together a "how to" guide and request that it be a sticky?
how about an engineering degree? What good does it do when one is commissioned as an officer. If it can be useful later in a different position, wouldn't it loose some shelf life, given how fast technology is evolving? How about other science fields like biology and chemistry? How about math? Well, does any major matter at all as a career officer? How about a female with an engineering or science degree as an officer? What kind of Army career options are available to her? I understand female officers are not given a combat role...