We fight this stupid (in my humble opinion) battle every Swab Summer...the Parent Handbook, approved by the Commandant of Cadets and Superintendent, states to address mail to "Cadet ______" and then the Cadre always freak out on the Swabs, as if they have any control over how people are addressing mail to them. We tried to change the handbook two years ago to "Swab ______", but the Parents Association wanted it to remain "Cadet ______" (and the Superintendent agreed) since that's officially their rank and the address which should be used all four years. Since I can't endorse fighting with the Cadre...I tell applicants to chalk this one up as the first (of many) things you should just do because the Cadre say so and it will save you a lot of pain/suffering in the long run.