Thanks for your replies.
He is in high school -a rising senior. His SAT score was the first one he has taken. He is retaking. Many actors were Marines but do actors become Marines? His recruiting officer seemed to laugh at all his theater experience and kept asking him if he did sports or Boy Scouts. He has done sports but not high school level and no boy scouts. I hope they have his best interest at heart. (mom worries) I don't think acting makes him any less qualified but when he mentions this as his main experience he gets looks and laughs.
Tap dancing through a whole Broadway show is very athletic and I see the correlation between performing and the military. Everyone has to do their job with precision and if someone does not it can put the whole show or mission at risk. It takes the lead to perform at their best in order for the other cast members to shine. He volunteers and works with autistic adults. Everyone who meets him is always impressed by his maturity and poise.
I am going to have him look into the "college programmer" route as well as the "Platoon Leaders Class". (new terms for me) I think he could be a Marine and officer material, but I am his mom. He is very serious about committing his all and doing his best at everything he does. And he is very serious about becoming a Marine. His dad and I would like him to get a college education while working towards this goal. He is thinking conservatively about colleges as well: San Diego State, University of Texas, Rutgers. Cost is an issue for us so he has to apply to schools that we can afford since NROTC scholarships are few and far between. Should he contact schools and let them know he is interested in joining the NROTC even without a scholarship? He is in the thick of things applying, writing essays, working, etc and I want him to do it on his own but I throw in tidbits of advice as I read through the forums etc.