The DODMERB exam and questionnaire with all 3 of my sons didn’t include me (mom) needing to know what each son answered in their questionnaire. IOW, it can be completed without them knowing what you answered (although I did ‘help’, by choice). Additionally, they had their exams without me present in the room. I had to go, to sign them in as they were minors, but I didn’t go back to the exam with them. So their conversations were private with the doctor.
I “helped” them with their questionnaires. I sat beside them, not able to see what they wrote, and helped guide the info provided as they filled out the questionnaire. IMO this is important so as to not answer more than is asked. To not self diagnose. You probably don’t know the actual medical treatment plans for things in your past, and once you move on to the next question, I don’t think you can go back and change your answers. You don’t want to make issues for yourself that aren’t actual issues, so this questionnaire is one that a parent/guardian needs to assist or review, imo.
When it came time for the alcohol/drug use piece, I stepped away. Another approach would be to be honest with your parents ahead of time. Most would not be surprised because they were kids once too.