MPO,
Live your life. You are 17 at best.
Be there, believe in the relationship, but don't twist your life around him.
Met Bullet the day after my HS graduation. Long distance relationship for 4 yrs. Engaged and he went to UNT (CA and I was in NJ for 1 yr). Married 1 month after winging. 5 1/2 yrs later after meeting.
I lived my life, he lived his life. We missed each other every day, but we supported each other regarding our dreams.
Honestly, JMPO, I think he loved the fact that I had a life without him. It made him secure that if he was deployed, I would live without him. Typically, the best AF marriages are the ones where spouses are independent of the AD member. I never expected Bullet to be at the soccer field. I painted the house (ext) without him. I knew how to change a flat tire. I didn't whine about moving to Idaho, I beacched about the movers not packing our stuff in the way I wanted. Halloween and he wasn't there OH WELL!
My life went on without him. I did it because I loved him, he loved me, and he loved me more because of the fact that I was independent. He could do his job and not worry about us. Again, we dated for 4 yrs 3 hrs away from each other, long before cell phones and skyping. This is not an easy life as a cadet's GF/BF. If you start to make it all about them and lose yourself, the relationship is doomed.
I am not trying to be negative, or saying you should break up, I am saying if you want to be seen as an adult committed relationship, talk to each other. It is you and him and only you and him.
Our opinions are BS. We are not you and him. We don't know the depth of your love, commitment or trust.