Following this story
For me this thread illustrates one of the highest and best uses of this board. Supporting a parent who is trying to help his/her exceptional kid removed in distance and experience from that parents reach. I came to the board years ago with trying to help my Mid from a distance and I am still following the conversation. You all looked pretty good on this thread.
Really nice to see posters offering up the struggles their own Mids have experienced at the USNA. My own DD loved that place and did well there................. but for her it was swimming. The kid grew up on a lake! She could deep water start on a slalom ski or climb back in an overturned skull...no problem. She couldn't pass the USNA swimming Req. Family sweated that one a bit, (DW doesn't handle the struggles of her children well
). DD took swimming lessons summer of her 3c year, and we had an exuberant call home when she passed. Seems like they all have their struggle with something; as it should be I guess.
Capt. MJ that's a Helluva "Spit ball," but I liked ProudDad2022's post of your PM comments better. There ought to be a "Gems" section of this board where that kind of information can sit.
To the OP. I've never been before the subject USNA board (or any USNA anything), but I have some Exp. with advocacy directed to judges and decision boards. Great news on his PRT (mock?) but unless the Board dismisses based on the recent PRT result, stick with Capt MJ's plan:
Causation Established; Responsibility Accepted; Plan Established; Proposed Metric; Lessons Learned. My experience teaches that when Judges/Boards are "on the fence" over taking a negative/punitive action, they will almost always opt for any clear plan that delivers more information and a metric that will make their decision almost automatic at a later date...if it comes to that.
BTW, if as part of this saga, your DS ended up reaching out for help in his company/Etc.....like you did, thats a huge
positive lesson learned, worth noting to a Board IMO: " I screwed up, this is what I'm gonna do to fix it, but along the way I learned this..positive lesson too... and I am taking that lesson with me". Boards/Judges always like to hear that the Respondent pulled something positive out of the experience beyond the immediate problem to be presented.
McLane, thanks for that last post. You're not the first person to get a little too saltly here. Msg board experiences differ, this one has a lot of deeply committed parents of sons/daughters who are being challenged far from home and far from Dad's / Mom's ability to help. We all accept that as part of the NAVY deal. That said, when people here read a post like Vmtony's it drops pretty hard, because it could be your kid, you know how hard Vmtony's position would be, and how much it means to that young Mid in trouble.
Looking forward to reading more from you McLane, I kinda miss MapleRock's rougher voice here.
vmtony please swing back here and let us know how this finally shakes out.
Best:
Just Dad