Future2LtMom
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Well, it's been a long time since I've been out here. Things have not gone anything like DH & I expected & I would appreciate some input. DS received 3-yr AROTC national scholarship & was promptly upgraded to 3 1/2 upon arriving on campus. In addition to that, he also left for college with two additional scholarships, so he was positioned to come out of college with no debt & money in his pocket.
Well, he is just now finishing up his first semester of his junior year, and he has only had two successful semesters out of the five. He has lost ALL scholarships! In terms of his performance in ROTC, he is one of the top cadets in terms of leadership scores, volunteering, he did Ranger Challenge, good grades in his ROTC classes, etc. He loves everything about the military & ROTC -- he just isn't performing scholastically. He has readily admitted that he does not like college and would not still be there were it not for the fact that he loves ROTC. After he bombed his 1st semester of freshman year, he considered dropping out and going in enlisted. After a long pow-wow around the kitchen table, he decided to stay in. But now that we are still dealing with same issues at the end of this semester, DH & I are going into tough love mode. It's a very difficult transition for us to make because, until he left for college, he's never given us this much grief.
Assuming DS still wants to try and stick it out in college & get his act together, DH is not willing to co-sign on a lease or student loans. He feels if DS is going to goof off, we are not going to be on the hook for it.
DS is now considering dropping out of ROTC & college and going in enlisted. DS told me that he could drop out of ROTC and "pay back" his ROTC scholarship through service (which he is gladly willing to do). I told him that, based on what I've seen in the past on this forum, it is not his choice. Instead, it's the Army's decision as to whether he pays back cash or pays back through service. Any input is greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
Mom Who's Screen Name Has More Than a Touch of Irony
Well, he is just now finishing up his first semester of his junior year, and he has only had two successful semesters out of the five. He has lost ALL scholarships! In terms of his performance in ROTC, he is one of the top cadets in terms of leadership scores, volunteering, he did Ranger Challenge, good grades in his ROTC classes, etc. He loves everything about the military & ROTC -- he just isn't performing scholastically. He has readily admitted that he does not like college and would not still be there were it not for the fact that he loves ROTC. After he bombed his 1st semester of freshman year, he considered dropping out and going in enlisted. After a long pow-wow around the kitchen table, he decided to stay in. But now that we are still dealing with same issues at the end of this semester, DH & I are going into tough love mode. It's a very difficult transition for us to make because, until he left for college, he's never given us this much grief.
Assuming DS still wants to try and stick it out in college & get his act together, DH is not willing to co-sign on a lease or student loans. He feels if DS is going to goof off, we are not going to be on the hook for it.
DS is now considering dropping out of ROTC & college and going in enlisted. DS told me that he could drop out of ROTC and "pay back" his ROTC scholarship through service (which he is gladly willing to do). I told him that, based on what I've seen in the past on this forum, it is not his choice. Instead, it's the Army's decision as to whether he pays back cash or pays back through service. Any input is greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
Mom Who's Screen Name Has More Than a Touch of Irony