BBBRRRTT
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Catchy tune for sure! Now I am going to be humming that all dayBBBRRRTT - As Anna said to Elsa, "Let it go."
Catchy tune for sure! Now I am going to be humming that all dayBBBRRRTT - As Anna said to Elsa, "Let it go."
Ours was 3Q, MOC nom, 4+GPA, solid SAT's, captain two sports, leadership awards, and told "no room in the inn" in May. The late notice of rejection in May is the part that was most concerning to us. Notice in mid April would have given us some limited time to work some other recruiting scenarios much more intensely. We all have moved on with our lives, but I do find some small satisfaction in warning others so that they don't have to go through the same disappointment in May.Tale of Two Candidates:
I really appreciated the insight on this thread and agree that those being recruited need to have a clearer picture about the SAs and how the nominations work. I know of the following:
Candidate #1 - recruited, agreed to play for SA in November, turned down other D1 offers, mid-January was told by coach "no room in the inn", as didn't win MOCs' slates couldn't get another nom, was too late to find a spot in alternate D1 or D2 schools (even without scholarship), settled for a D3 who at least had a spot
Candidate #2 - recruited, also has presidential nom just in case wasn't MOC winner, had appointment in November
Candidate #1 felt really betrayed by SA, but really didn't understand the process. Obviously, couldn't commit to another school while committing to play for SA, but thought was a "guaranteed" appointment.
Ours was 3Q, MOC nom, 4+GPA, solid SAT's, captain two sports, leadership awards, and told "no room in the inn" in May. The late notice of rejection in May is the part that was most concerning to us. Notice in mid April would have given us some limited time to work some other recruiting scenarios much more intensely. We all have moved on with our lives, but I do find some small satisfaction in warning others so that they don't have to go through the same disappointment in May.
Yes, Yes, and keep the plan B on the other front burnerOurs was 3Q, MOC nom, 4+GPA, solid SAT's, captain two sports, leadership awards, and told "no room in the inn" in May. The late notice of rejection in May is the part that was most concerning to us. Notice in mid April would have given us some limited time to work some other recruiting scenarios much more intensely. We all have moved on with our lives, but I do find some small satisfaction in warning others so that they don't have to go through the same disappointment in May.
Are you referring to the rejection of not receiving an appointment? Or the rejection of not being on the sports team? What do you mean “warning others”?
There are still kids waiting to hear this time in the appointment cycle every year. Unfortunately it’s the nature of how it all works. It’s always prudent and recommended to have a solid Plan B in place.
These are all excellent points. Totally agree!Our experience going through the recruiting process was fairly clear. When my DD was truly being actively recruited by a school she knew it. My DD received letters from various schools showing interest and she reached out to additional schools she was also interested in. For the schools truly interested in recruiting her there were continual phone calls and texts with various staff all through the months long process, a pitch to get her to the campus for a paid official visit and a pitch once she was there. They also verbally said we want your DD to commit and will help get nom if necessary. She was told to apply to every nomination source and if one wasn’t received she would be provided one. She received a nom on her own. She made sure EVERY aspect of her application was stellar so there would be no weak spots. She wasn’t taking any chances. An athlete shouldn’t assume the sport will necessarily get them over other weak areas in their app.
If an athlete doesn’t have this level of continual recruitment and verbally told tbey’re a top recruit then I definitely would not assume anything. If my DD would have had to reach out to schools for any kind of continual confirmation from them, that would have been a sign to her to make sure her other options were lined up.
And I think the most important factor as a parent is to stay out of the process as much as possible. The relationship should be driven by the recruit and the school. Schools will let the parents know when/if they want your feedback or interaction but mostly they want all interactions to be with the athlete. From our experience, I can definitely see schools being turned off if parents are too involved.
This is an excellent point. Totally agree. That's worth repeating for sure!An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointment
We all have moved on with our lives
After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointment
Did the first child or the second child get in? My money is on the first. I'm right, aren't I?After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointment
Is there a link between birth order and level of obsessiveness by parent? If so, I think it might be an interesting read.Did the first child or the second child get in? My money is on the first. I'm right, aren't I?After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointment
Did the first child or the second child get in?After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointment
We already know it was child 2 who didn't get in. The academy's experience with child 1 and his or her parents will be taken into consideration on the application of child 2.Is there a link between birth order and level of obsessiveness by parent? If so, I think it might be an interesting read.Did the first child or the second child get in? My money is on the first. I'm right, aren't I?After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointment
Wow, I did not know that was factored in. Learn something every day.Did the first child or the second child get in?After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointmentWe already know it was child 2 who didn't get in. The academy's experience with child 1 and his or her parents will be taken into consideration on the application of child 2.Is there a link between birth order and level of obsessiveness by parent? If so, I think it might be an interesting read.Did the first child or the second child get in? My money is on the first. I'm right, aren't I?After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointment
Actually I am going to go ahead and take the bait here Korab, so other than attending 4 years of parents weekends and a graduation, what other interactions should a parent have with the academy?Wow, I did not know that was factored in. Learn something every day.Did the first child or the second child get in?After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointmentWe already know it was child 2 who didn't get in. The academy's experience with child 1 and his or her parents will be taken into consideration on the application of child 2.Is there a link between birth order and level of obsessiveness by parent? If so, I think it might be an interesting read.Did the first child or the second child get in? My money is on the first. I'm right, aren't I?After further reflection. I may have agreed too quickly. I believe I obsessed equally over both our recruits. One got accepted and one did not. So I really can't say for sure that theory holds water. Sorry for the flip floppy-ness.An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
Let me say that again:
An obsessive parent will cause their kid to be de-selected.
As a parent, let your kid handle all communication with the coach (outside of the official visit meeting with coach if you are present). Also, be realistic about where your kid's talent stacks up. If they are marginal for the school, then nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says, so don't overestimate the school's interest. If your kid is also entirely average academically, then again, nothing is guaranteed no matter what anyone says. Overestimating your kid's athletic standing and competitiveness as a candidate is a recipe for disappointment