Counseling for candidate after a loss

[NervousMother]

First, I am acutely aware of how crazy it is to post this question.

My son is a candidate for USAFA class of 2024. It has been his dream to fly a fighter jet since he was 2 and it’s something he has worked incredibly hard for and that candidacy is important to him.

his father died very suddenly over the weekend. He’s handling it. I would very much like to have the entire family do some grief therapy, but I am worried about how this will impact his medical qualification.He has already lost so much, I’m worried about him losing this too just because I’d like to provide him with some extra support.

Do we have to report therapy to DODMERB if there is no diagnosis?

 

[justdoit19]

My uneducated mom advice is NO. It isn’t a diagnosed medical therapy session for a mental illness, for example. It’s grief counseling. To me, it’s the same as if your son spoke to a clergy person.

If there ends up being a diagnosed medical issue discovered, then maybe yes. But only seeking support for this? No. Not imo.

I am SO SORRY for your families loss. Time to focus on your family, not worry about DODMERB. I understand your concern of course but IMO, it’s a non-issue. Will pray for your family, God bless!

 

[jl123]

My opinion: Do not report anything unless you are certain it must be reported. If there is no diagnosis, it doesn't exist.

 

[dah19]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Heatherg21]

+1 @justdoit19 . I am so sorry for your loss. I believe this is the same as seeking a sit down with a grief counselor, school guidance counselor or clergy. They are trained in providing support to those who are in mourning. They can help provide tools for your son to 'put in his toolbox' that can help him get through this. Not a doc, but definitely with my mom hat on would say this isn't a medical issue. It's a human one and your desire to help support him is spot on. Again, my condolences.

 

[Porto]

Sincerely hope the best for you and your family. I am very sorry for your loss.

 

[tryingmybest]

I have no advice but wanted to say how very sorry I am for your loss. Seeking support and help for your child's emotional health is very wise and hopefully would not be an issue for an appointment.

 

[2024candidate]

If it is not on a medical record, then you do not need to report it. If he wasn't diagnosed with anything, do NOT report it. This could add many many many months to the process and it isn't necessary.