Mom speaking here:
It was REALLY hard for me to consider encouraging my son to pursue the SA's or ROTC. Between my distrust of old white men who are all to happy to sacrifice our sons and daughters AND experiences my own brothers had being in the Army I was incredibly reticent to accept that my son wanted to actively pursue a career in the military.
We sat down and talked about what's important to him. We talked about the SA's being a different path into the military- the fact that he would come out of school with a world class education AND incredibly strong leadership qualities. He told me how he's always looked up to the men and women before him who gave back to our country and how he admired their dedication and sacrifice.
I'll admit it, I cried about this. I tend to be more pacifistic about the way I have chosen to live my life and raise my children (along with my husband.)
With misgivings, I agreed that he is now a man and making a strong informed decision for himself, his future and our country. This made me proud, a little ember lit in my heart.
Shortly after we started talking about the Academy, we met with an Air Force ALO. His, dedication, passion and understanding of the culture helped me realize that this is an amazing opportunity for my son. That little ember became a small fire.
Finally, in early November 2017 we visited USAFA's campus. Seeing the young people there, hearing from students and graduates, experiencing the settings, I finally realized there was a huge fire in my heart for my son and his plans for the future.
If you can, have your parents meet with your ALO, visit a campus with them, explain to them about the fire in your own heart, maybe give them a little bit of their own ember.
Good luck, kiddo. As a mom, I get it- on both fronts.