Ill speak to this from a perspective of a mom, who had a plebe struggle...differently, but still struggle. It’s a MENTAL challenge, grind, more than anything. The physical will work itself out. But they have to decide that they will get back up, and continue. Never give up. Not take it personally. IMO, this is where the sports analogies kick In. On a football team, you get knocked around. But you make adjustments, figure out your weaknesses, and keep going. In your mind, you dont give up, you keep going. And going. And going. Thats grit. Your Coaches are there to help you. They are invested in you. Counsel you. As long as you are Coachable, they work with you. Alll towards the end goal. Which may not even be winning that game, but rather winning that game to win the Championship at the end of the season. And your teammates are there to pick you up when you fall. Literally and metaphorically.
These are the biggest opportunities for self growth! When the decision is made to ‘never give up the ship’. As a parent, it’s hard to get those letters. Or have those conversations. But, remain positive, supportive and stoic. Let them vent. Your call today may be completely void of any discussion about any of this as that moment has passed and is old news. Or, it could be the ‘I quit, i cant do this’ call. Where you say ‘yes, you can’, ‘I believe in you’, ‘you GOT THIS!!’, and ‘YOU ARE ALMOST DONE’ (with plebe summer...). If it ends up to be the latter, offer them to hang in there...the next phase is quite different from this one. Big time.
I’m not sure if plebes know this or not, but they will only have their firstie detailers going forward. Everyone else is changing companies. BTW...my ‘struggler’ is thriving. THRIVING. Home now, and the stories he tells. He misses his homies immensely. Is a different person. Seriously having the time of his life and is the envy of his friends (i mean, he drove (is that the right word??) a nuclear submarine, a ship, launched grenades, flew an airplane.....also sailed up and down the Coast, and mingled with famous people). Never could have convinced me this would be him, a year ago. HANG IN THERE!! And honestly, his perspective when he wrote that letter was probably skewed a bit, and not the whole story. In the big picture.
Cant wait for the calls. Hoping yours is good! And if its not, find a battle buddy if you need one. This, too, shall pass!!