Just For Fun…how did you meet your better half??

Early 90's, pre internet. I was at Moffett on a flag staff and was checking out the local electronic BBS's (1200 bps!). This one in particular covered all of the SF Bay area from SF and Oakland southward. Met FDW online, had a few chats and decided to meet for coffee. Turned out she lived 5 blocks away from my apartment and I had been going past her building on morning runs for several months.

Engaged six months later, married three months after that. Just passed 31 years this June.
 
With all the longevity on this thread…what’s the secret??

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justdoit19 said:
With all the longevity on this thread…what’s the secret??

And GO!
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Maybe the fact that a lot of military people have a high sense of duty and honor and take oaths rather seriously. While I have not served in the military, I consider it a sacred duty to my family to maintain my marriage - - even through all the tough times - - and I consider divorce to satisfy one’s own personal needs to be selfish and dishonorable.

One thing that the minister who married us said to me privately before the ceremony that stuck with me was “Remember, if you ever make her cry, God will be counting the tears.”
 
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justdoit19 said:
With all the longevity on this thread…what’s the secret??

And GO!
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I have always followed Charlie Pride's advice to kiss an angel good morning and love her like the devil when I got back home.
The challenge is that I work from home, so never know when to switch.

And of course to know she has always been right, so no sense questioning it again.
 
So we haven't been married as long as a lot of folks on this thread, but I'll add that we always remember the order of importance:

1. God
2. Marriage
3. Kids

Sometimes it gets a little out of order and we re-calibrate.

We've also become protective of our marriage after seeing so many military friends get divorced. It seems like friendships can start innocently when a spouse is away and then turns into something more, then a divorce. We've mutually decided if we are hanging out with a friend of the opposite sex, that it is in a group setting. Not because we don't trust one another, but because we value our marriage over any other friendship and not willing to take the risk.
 
I have my brother-in-law to blame. I was low-level management and he worked for me. One day he came into work and said that his sister was in town visiting and maybe I would want to meet her. I half-heartedly agreed, which is when he said “ok lets go”. She had brought him to work so that she could use his car and he had her wait in the parking lot while he asked me. I went out to and met the most beautiful woman in the world. I ended up asking her to go to a movie right then and there. We went that night and we will be married 35 years in October.

Follow-up: I ended up firing her brother a couple of years later for reasons. I do appreciate his effort with his sister, though.

Stealth_81
 
Stealth_81 said:
I have my brother-in-law to blame. I was low-level management and he worked for me. One day he came into work and said that his sister was in town visiting and maybe I would want to meet her. I half-heartedly agreed, which is when he said “ok lets go”. She had brought him to work so that she could use his car and he had her wait in the parking lot while he asked me. I went out to and met the most beautiful woman in the world. I ended up asking her to go to a movie right then and there. We went that night and we will be married 35 years in October.

Follow-up: I ended up firing her brother a couple of years later for reasons. I do appreciate his effort with his sister, though.

Stealth_81
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Great story. Assume the work release was after any wedding toasts?
 
I'm not military, but I met my DH via (us oldies..) a Prodigy chat room. He was stationed in NJ active duty at the time. I wasn't even looking for a relationship, but it just happened he was able to meet up with my friends and I at a club in Philly and we just hit 25 years in April.... He was active duty at the time and I was all set to transfer my pharmacy license to wherever he ended up next but he opted out and went reserves. Best thing for him as he ended his career as an E-9.
 
justdoit19 said:
With all the longevity on this thread…what’s the secret??

And GO!
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LOL...I refuse to talk politics with him! He handles the long term finances, I handle all the bills, and I got to attend all the kids' activities...he'd go screaming all the way when I told him it was a mandatory one (ie: concerts, playoffs, etc)....
 
By the way, the first one didn't take. Less than 3 years. I left with my clothes and my books. She couldn't wear my clothes and was wholly incapable of reading my books.

My correct choice is in its 28th year, so it's all good.
 
justdoit19 said:
With all the longevity on this thread…what’s the secret??

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In my case, i think i love her more each year and try to make her happy. That isn't to say that after 30 years, she doesn't drive me crazy sometimes.
 
DH is always right.
I always get my own way.

More seriously, whenever the Stupid Spat flag starts climbing the flagpole, I ask myself “Would you rather be right or happy?”
 
I must start my post on this thread with a question.... which one?

OK. My current bride and I have been married for 32 years. I knew her from a Ski and Outing Club, but only enough to nod to when we made eye contact. My single female neighbor invited her boyfriend, my future bride, and I to dinner one Sunday. I think she was trying to fix us up. The next day the neighbor asked what I thought of her. I said, "She talks too much". To this day, I sometimes tell her to take a breath. I guess I knew what I was getting into. Nevertheless she was a vivacious, cute, freckled faced red-head who I started hanging out with as a friend. Eventually one thing led to another. I love her more each day.
 
Capt MJ said:
DH is always right.
I always get my own way.

More seriously, whenever the Stupid Spat flag starts climbing the flagpole, I ask myself “Would you rather be right or happy?”
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DS and his Mom both want to always be right, just to be right. They are stubborn and persistent about it. Whenever he starts arguing with her over some small thing I always ask "Son, is that the hill you want to die on?". Most times it just isn't worth it.
 
kinnem said:
DS and his Mom both want to always be right, just to be right. They are stubborn and persistent about it. Whenever he starts arguing with her over some small thing I always ask "Son, is that the hill you want to die on?". Most times it just isn't worth it.
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To this day I kid my DD regarding a 6th grade math comment her teacher told me during parent teacher conference. They were learning about right angles. The teacher (he was literally out of college...first full time job) asked the students "What else is always right?" Yup, DD raised her hand and goes, "My mom." :cool:
 
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