If you don’t mind my asking, who ended it? And for what purpose? How did you recover from it?
Sounds like you are setting yourself up to fail at this. You gotta want to serve more than anything else....if you cant handle this situation...you might want to rethink things about why you want to go to WP and be in the military, IMO. Because later down the road, when the military says you have to go somewhere they wont be seeking the permission of the the significant other.
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She ended it because she was not interested in what the military life was going to become and the Academy was just a small window into what the experience would be like. It sucked for a while, but I recovered by (putting this gently) getting the f$$k over it. Life moves on and relationships come to an end. Being at West Point and serving in the Army was always my number one priority which made it easy to move on. If that is not your priority, then you will have a much bigger problem getting over it. Eventually I "found" my way to my wife (long story) late in my Cow year, we were engaged just before graduation, she stuck with me through all the military schools for a year and we are now approaching 22 years married. All that is to say, your life will change significantly over that four year period at the Academy and losing a serious girlfriend is not the end of the world.
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With a couple months left my DD is still amongst the 2%. But “whatshisname” knew what he was getting into and was very supportive. They are both a little older and more mature, however. When DD expressed doubts at the last minute about going to R-Day it was the boyfriend who told her, “Go or you will regret it the rest of your life. If we make it it’s meant to be. If not, it wasn’t.”
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I turned down a SA for a girlfriend. She didn’t last long as it was and for a long time I regretted that decision.
But life worked out and, while disappointed at my young self for making that decision I’m happy with how my life turned out and wouldn’t trade anything.
But life worked out and, while disappointed at my young self for making that decision I’m happy with how my life turned out and wouldn’t trade anything.
So after a serious conversation yesterday, my girlfriend and I decided to end things. It hasn’t been easy to say the least. We both agreed that we might come back together in the future, if that’s God’s will - but I wanted to ask if you guys suggest that I send her a letter before I leave for BEAST. Explaining to her that I love her, etc. Like how long should I give her to reach out? What do y’all think the odds are of us getting back together? This is just my first relationship, and therefore heartbreak - and need any advice. Thanks!
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Wow! First of all, I am sorry. I really do know how hard that was and how much you are hurting right now. Secondly, I admire the courage it took to be up front with her and agree to make the difficult choice. It was probably the right call for now. Quiet honestly, odds of you two getting back together are slim but it’s possible. I do think it would be a nice gesture for you to write her a letter before you leave for BEAST. It may help you to get some of your feelings off your chest and onto paper. Let her know how much she has meant to you and how much you still care for her. Tell her that her happiness is the most important thing to you and that she will always have a special place in your heart! Best of luck to you at WP, with your career and life! You are already wise beyond your years and you have an outstanding future ahead of you!
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Wow, that is one way to handle the situation. If you have agreed to end it, then just move on for now. A letter professing your feelings might be sweet, but if you already made the decision then it is over. Time to focus on what is in front of you. Otherwise, it becomes an effort in hanging on to your relationship. All that being said, you can still communicate while you guys are at school. If you remain friends there are opportunities later at the Academy when she could come to visit you (Yearling Winter Weekend, 500th Night, Ring Weekend, and 100th Night specifically).
Good luck to you! Keep your eye on the prize.
I’m not sure if I could stay just friends with her...I’d love to see her one more time before I leave for BEAST, but not sure how it may affect me. I hope that our paths cross again in the future.