Having the ALO privy to this exchange compromises son's ability to act as an independent decision maker.
The ALO's job is to be a liaison.
I am confused here, because you aren't mad that they gave him the questions prior to the interview, but mad that they talked to the det.
Our DS's ALO also did his ROTC interview along with his AFA. Actually his AFROTC interview consisted of DS, I am calling to tell you that since I have been working with you for the AFA, I don't feel I need to interview you for ROTC since I know all of the info anyway.
Not everywhere do they have ALO's for ROTC and AFA, sometimes they do both.
I would not call the AFA because they have absolutely nothing to do with AFROTC. It would come across as a tattling on the ALO. Instead, if you are very upset about the behavior of the ALO, contact the regional ALO. If you don't know how to do it. PM Flieger (on this site), and I am sure he can give you the regional.
Again, to me it appears he was assisting your DS by allowing him to see the questions prior to the interview. If you knew that question (will you take AFA over AFROTC) was going to come down, than it was giving a hint that they were looking at that issue.
In the end, if I have read the thread correctly, the fat lady has yet to even warm up her vocal chords because he has yet to meet an AFROTC board. If he is strong enough to get a full ride regarding this program, he should be definetely strong enough to get an AFROTC scholarship.
Caveat: This also goes back to the tier school and if this was his safety of safeties. If the candidate has a 32 ACT/ 2200 SAT and a 3.75 uwgpa, but the incoming class has a 28 ACT/1850SAT and a 3.2 uwgpa he is someone they want and will recruit him. However, take those same stats and he is avg when it comes to the AFA.
There is a bigger picture.
Also, some universities "talk" to ROTC, some do not. It appears in this situation they "talk" and that could also be why they had a drop dead timeline. The university could be demanding a drop dead date and holding ROTC hostage. If the scholarship covers every penny, it actually could be a better choice than to take your chances on the AFROTC scholarship.
It all has to do with stats, and where you rack and stack. You need to be brutally honest with yourselves and ask where you stack.
If it was me, and our DS had a 31 ACT, 3.75 uwgpa with 10 APs, great CFA/PFA and strong ECs I would be on the fence. If it was anything lower, I'd have a long talk with the ALO on how he perceives the chances.
Great ALO's keep in contact with the regionals at the AFA. Don't jump over their head and contact the regional. Have your
DS contact the ALO and ask the ALO to contact the regional.
As a parent you want to do everything to obtain their dream, but from the AF side this is about him now fighting for his dream. He needs to take the initiative in this situation.
We are here for you and will listen 24/7 to your frustrations. We will be your support, and hopefully give you guidance. BUT this is his life, and he needs to be in charge of it when it comes to the AF.
***Also, remember the minute he turns 18, they will not discuss squat with you, so it is best he starts now.