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sky11

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I need to, somehow, tell my family that I am hopefully joining ROTC next year. Unfortunately, I was told I would be disowned if I joined the army. I need a way to tell my family and I really want to try not to lose them as well.

How should I tell them?
 
Maybe I'm just getting cranky in my old age but it's getting harder and harder to answer posts with such ridiculous questions. The fact that this comes shortly after @FlyingWeasels38 question regarding a bait and switch on the ROTC board makes me suspicious. This forum should really be about answering specific questions with sufficient detail to answer those questions by folks who have had a similar experience. It shouldn't be some random questions about how to deal with some random family's opinions about the military but as I said, I have my doubts about this questions validity to begin with.
 
Unless your parents are fitting the college bill (and demand to know what classes you are taking), go to college, sign up for ROTC classes, and tell them when the time is right. Fly the nest, be independent!
 
I was at my weekly therapist appointment last night and he went through the reasons I have, um, issues. He ran through the list of family members who had a negative impact starting with my maternal grandfather who was a double ax murderer. I said no, he was really a good guy. OK, what about your dad, he left you and your mother and you had to drop out of school and work to support the family. No, No, he was adventurous, he couldn't be tied down. He said, I know somebody in your family is causing your problems. Your mother, it has to be your mother. She let you run wild and showed you no love. No, she was my dear mother. I have no issues with her.

Well sir, we are down to your last family member. Your son. There is no way he has caused your mental angst. He's a Marine for goodness sake. A member of the military. A Marine.

Please, Please I begged him. Never tell anyone our family secret.
 
Fun, great posts above.

Assuming the OP isn't another scam new account designed to yank chains I'll try to also help.

OP, seek to understand WHY your family is opposed to you serving. Is it serving or serving in the army that is the issue? Why?
Talk to your family about your interest to serve.
Explain to your family that you as a top priority want to maintain lifelong/ great relationships with them.
Explain that you can walk away from ROTC without commitment as a college programmer, but that you want to try/ see if it is for you.
Posts are correct that you are 18 and it is your choice, but being cut off from your family may not be your goal. I know too many people who no longer talk to their relatives - usually over inheritances and such, but it does happen. It's sad.

Good luck.

Just for giggles, my threaten to be disowned experience was a little different. Flush with cash from mowing lawns (I think I had like 40 bucks - living large!) When I was like 12 I bought a poster of actress Heather Thomas from a store called Spencers and hung it in my bedroom wall. Momma Herman Snerd was most not pleased, and threatened to disown me if it wasn't gone by the time my Dad got home. She was like go get a poster of the Dukes (bo and luke) or a sports team. So I went back to the mallEE1.pngHT1.png, and bought a shirtless Eric Estrada poster and put it up instead. My Dad came home, asked what was up when he saw Ponch from CHiPs staring at him, suppressed a laugh, I briefly explained and he said "put the first one back up" and that was the end of that.
 
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