I think was Currentmid said is true, hard to hear maybe, but true.
That said, old Ranger has a dilemma and is asking for advice. What about your plebe finding someone in company to mentor him? Someone who, unlike most of us parents (not you Memphis!) has been there, done that. That's really all I can think of, Ranger, to target this situation. Oh, and maybe a care package or two. Anything to keep them powered up and healthy. And, of course, total support and cheerleading from the home front.
These kids are smart, smart, smart. And although they may have been challenged in high school, it was nothing like they face now. My youngster actually did have to work harder at high school to get not quite as good of grades/SAT's etc as his older brother did. Older brother had to learn to study in college and is perfecting the technique in vet school!
In my oldest son's first semester at Texas A&M, I vividly remember one night when I talked with him. He lived in the Honors Dorm......the Honors College students had an average of 1498 SAT (2 parts, math, critical reading)........he was scraping the bottom with his 1390. Anyway, that dorm had a policy at mid term that if you were failing a class, you went to a meeting. The meeting was the aforementioned night. He said the dorm was vacant. Everyone was at the meeting. These challenges face plenty of smart kids when they get to college, at a service academy or elsewhere.
My youngster at USNA got a D last year in Calc 3.

D for "DONE", was what he told us! 30 % of the class got C's, 40% got D's and 30% F's. He had never gotten a C, darn few B's (maybe one or two, maybe...) and certainly no D's. I expressed concern on this forum and was told immediately not to worry. His brother in vet school, said "Mom, it's ok. He's being challenged like none other right now. Don't panic."
One of his solutions to the overwhelming academic load was to use a summer training block to take a navigation class. So, instead of coming home for August, he was in class. Got a not too difficult, but time consuming class out of the way to give him more time this fall. He had to be on the spot at the time the summer classes opened up and clear it with his company officers. He still got in two training blocks. What he gave up was 3 weeks at home. Which we supported. In the hopes his fall semester would be more manageable.
I realize, old Ranger, that doesn't help you now. Just keep cheerleading! And if a visit will help, by all means go!
