cbasalt1
USNA 27'
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Just a note:
I have seen COUNTLESS times posts about parents being worried or extremely stressed about admissions. They then go on to say that DS or DD is doing great however and is completely calm and doing better than they are.
This is likely not true!
As an applicant, my parents said the same thing after I accepted: "How were you not worried?", "did you not lose sleep like we did?", "I am impressed that you stayed so calm" when in reality I was a nervous wreck for the few months of waiting and worked incredibly hard not to show it. After all, I am a teenager and teenagers are cool
I used to check my portal at least once a day (I got better about it later on) but when Mom would ask have you checked your portal I would either say "yeah a while ago" or get a little snappy over the fact that she was reminding me over something that I was absolutely obsessing about. Like I needed reminding! I know this is irrational, and I should have been better towards my parents offers of help or assistance. Instead my Testosterone often turned their trying to help into a personal attack on my ability to get things done.
In all seriousness, chances are, your applicant is incredibly worked up about the admissions process but wouldn't dare show it because at least for me doing so felt like a violation of self confidence somehow. They might not even admit their worry to themselves. I tried not to. Keep this in mind when speaking to them. I was really sensitive over something for the first time with the whole admissions process, and I should have just spoken to my folks about it.
Juniors, bear with your parents for the next little bit as they go overboard to try to help and support you for nominations, application, medical etc. Parents often know best. Let them help you as much as possible even if it means hearing "WE did it" after an appointment. Because in reality, it does need to be a group effort, not just the applicant pushing through and being "independent".
Just something to keep in mind as a parent. Bear with your applicant! No human can be calm about a Service Academy!
I have seen COUNTLESS times posts about parents being worried or extremely stressed about admissions. They then go on to say that DS or DD is doing great however and is completely calm and doing better than they are.
This is likely not true!
As an applicant, my parents said the same thing after I accepted: "How were you not worried?", "did you not lose sleep like we did?", "I am impressed that you stayed so calm" when in reality I was a nervous wreck for the few months of waiting and worked incredibly hard not to show it. After all, I am a teenager and teenagers are cool
I used to check my portal at least once a day (I got better about it later on) but when Mom would ask have you checked your portal I would either say "yeah a while ago" or get a little snappy over the fact that she was reminding me over something that I was absolutely obsessing about. Like I needed reminding! I know this is irrational, and I should have been better towards my parents offers of help or assistance. Instead my Testosterone often turned their trying to help into a personal attack on my ability to get things done.
In all seriousness, chances are, your applicant is incredibly worked up about the admissions process but wouldn't dare show it because at least for me doing so felt like a violation of self confidence somehow. They might not even admit their worry to themselves. I tried not to. Keep this in mind when speaking to them. I was really sensitive over something for the first time with the whole admissions process, and I should have just spoken to my folks about it.
Juniors, bear with your parents for the next little bit as they go overboard to try to help and support you for nominations, application, medical etc. Parents often know best. Let them help you as much as possible even if it means hearing "WE did it" after an appointment. Because in reality, it does need to be a group effort, not just the applicant pushing through and being "independent".
Just something to keep in mind as a parent. Bear with your applicant! No human can be calm about a Service Academy!