I am more proud of my son than I can say, and I respect his decision to follow his father and grandfather into military service. However, when I see the faces of the parents and families of fallen soldiers/sailors/marines/airmen, I wonder if I will be one of them. I had these feelings, but not to this extent, when I had to send my husband off to war. Yes, I cried, missed him, prayed for him, supported him, but it was different. I knew defense of our nation and its allies was his job when I married him. My question is: How do I reconcile my son going into harm's way? I feel differently about him going, than my husband. What have other parents done? My mom had both her husband AND only son deployed to Viet Nam, and as she passed away two years ago, I cannot ask her. Bottom line is, I'm afraid he'll be killed and I so don't want to face that. I watched that music video and those parents! How broken they are. How can they bear so much grief? I am truly not a wimp (I work in surgery, after all), but, any suggestion on how to get a handle on this?