The waiting is the hardest part

Jackmaster66

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As parents, how do you maintain patience as you wait with your DD/DS for a decision?

In full disclosure, my DS has completed every step except CFA (to be completed in 10 days), then we wait again for the nomination processes to begin. Perhaps I'm not as patient as I think I am.
 
As parents, how do you maintain patience as you wait with your DD/DS for a decision?

In full disclosure, my DS has completed every step except CFA (to be completed in 10 days), then we wait again for the nomination processes to begin. Perhaps I'm not as patient as I think I am.
Have you visited the Cocktail thread here? The Bacon thread? The Pet pic thread? The Everything Drawer?

And don’t forget the delightful status where everything is done and in - and the wait goes into late spring.
 
As I wrote some time ago: applicants for service academies come through the journey with a new vocabulary for waiting. Just like Eskimos having 20 words for snow, you're going to develop all sorts of nuance around waiting: waiting for people to send docs, waiting for portal status to change, waiting for dodmerb appointments or results, waiting for decisions, waiting for waivers, etc. Waiting is. Let go. Breathe.

And then we go play in Off Topic threads as suggested by the esteemed Capt MJ.
 
Serious answer here….get involved in other stuff. Particularly their senior year moments. Look into plan B activities, and support you child in paying attention to those. Go to games. Buy a sweatshirt. Plan The dorm room. Plan B could very well be plan A! I had one find out in November, one late May off the waitlist. The secret is to not obsess about it, not ask them about it….and be present in their amazing senior year moments.

Its a marathon, not a sprint…for the parent as well!!
 
+1 to @justdoit19 , time flies, even when you are waiting. Make memories, go for walks, and do silly things with your DS/DD. Before you know it, the wait will be over and regardless of the outcome, they will likely never live full-time in your home again (buy stock in Kleenex).

Time goes way too fast. While waiting is hard, it is also an inherent part of life in the military. Getting good at waiting now will make life simpler and less filled with angst for parents and applicants alike.
 
Have you visited the Cocktail thread here? The Bacon thread? The Pet pic thread? The Everything Drawer?

And don’t forget the delightful status where everything is done and in - and the wait goes into late spring.
Delightful and waiting, interesting.
 
As I wrote some time ago: applicants for service academies come through the journey with a new vocabulary for waiting. Just like Eskimos having 20 words for snow, you're going to develop all sorts of nuance around waiting: waiting for people to send docs, waiting for portal status to change, waiting for dodmerb appointments or results, waiting for decisions, waiting for waivers, etc. Waiting is. Let go. Breathe.

And then we go play in Off Topic threads as suggested by the esteemed Capt MJ.
In through the nose, out through the mouth.
 
Serious answer here….get involved in other stuff. Particularly their senior year moments. Look into plan B activities, and support you child in paying attention to those. Go to games. Buy a sweatshirt. Plan The dorm room. Plan B could very well be plan A! I had one find out in November, one late May off the waitlist. The secret is to not obsess about it, not ask them about it….and be present in their amazing senior year moments.

Its a marathon, not a sprint…for the parent as well!!
I'll make sure my hobbies have hobbies.
 
+1 to @justdoit19 , time flies, even when you are waiting. Make memories, go for walks, and do silly things with your DS/DD. Before you know it, the wait will be over and regardless of the outcome, they will likely never live full-time in your home again (buy stock in Kleenex).

Time goes way too fast. While waiting is hard, it is also an inherent part of life in the military. Getting good at waiting now will make life simpler and less filled with angst for parents and applicants alike.
Adding your comments to those received earlier and "standing down" to the best of my ability.
 
May? Gulp!
The waiting is challenging. As others have said, get busy doing other things and enjoy every single moment with your DS. Take a trip together, do whatever it is that he wants to do. My DD was waitlisted and didn't come off until May 25. The wait is HARD on them and it makes it even harder if you're anxious too. While friends we celebrating with their acceptances to their school of choice, she was in a holding pattern. While others were being recognized at HS graduation for their scholarship awards, she was in a holding pattern. She had her plan B set, but it just wasn't the same type of celebration that others were experiencing. WL created a whole new level of patience.
 
like @Heatherg21 mentioned it wont be long before you might need those tissues.

DS left last summer and it felt like I had a giant hole in my chest. Enjoy these days while you can. The waiting can wait!
 
Wait listing starts to move you from waiting to hoping, which adds a whole new dimension. You have to test optimism as well as patience. @LA rockymnt hi , big props to anyone who runs that gauntlet. My DD was solid and cool like an iceberg, but she found out by the end of March; that's an eternity sooner than May.
 
Live life and have a Plan B ready to go. We got ROTC AF Type 1 in October and the USAFA Appointment in early March of senior year. Lots of civilian schools to tour and apply to helps.
 
Wait listing starts to move you from waiting to hoping, which adds a whole new dimension. You have to test optimism as well as patience. @LA rockymnt hi , big props to anyone who runs that gauntlet. My DD was solid and cool like an iceberg, but she found out by the end of March; that's an eternity sooner than May.
Agree - props to all who try.
 
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