Tailhook had issues all around, I am sorry, but I don't remember it all regarding her, except for the fact that she won 5 million in damages against the Hilton.
Was she the one drinking out of the rhino, earlier in the day down by the pool? I guess you are implying the stigma issue.
Here's my answer to that...and it would be the same to our DD...don't put yourself in the situation. That floor was known for its hallway gauntlet. Did she think she was not going to be groped? Was it right that they groped women? NO! Would I be ashamed if my DS was one that groped? YES! Yet, the fact is it was not a secret on what was occurring, and she placed herself in that situation. She even acknowledged that she knew of the behavior, but felt like she was one of the guys so she wouldn't be attacked...excuse me? You knew of it and you didn't blow the whistle before you went on that floor? You turned your own blinds eye to the behavior and your sisterhood because you thought it won't happen to me. It was all fine until you were the victim. I will not make her into a heroine because she blew the whistle after the fact when she always knew the facts. She should have come forward earlier without ever going on that floor. She failed all of those other women because of her need to be "one of the boys". To her it wasn't about it being wrong, it was about herself. She went there believing she was safe (due to the fact that she was a pilot and an Adm. aide), and the questions begs to be asked, if she did not get grouped and they allowed her through would she still have come forward, or would she said, at least it wasn't me!
Why did she or any of these women go up to that floor knowing the facts? By going up there they encouraged the behavior of the men. Those guys would have not continued to that if 50 women got off the elevators together and start hitting them with baseball bats. They would have gotten a quick message knock it off. Maybe the gauntlet would have ceased to exist if every woman refused to even go up there, to prove a point to the men. The gauntlet was wrong, but it was known to be a enter at your own risk area. Would you approve of your DD walking in a crime riddle area by herself at night? NO, you would ask her why she placed herself in that danger? You would hug her, hold her, and damned the person who hurt her, but you would also say what were you thinking? If you ask her that question, than you must admit, you too have placed some responsibility on her shoulders.
I am sure you think I am being harsh, or believe she deserved it. Maybe I am, but placing yourself in the situation and then crying foul burns my goat, because that also causes the stigma to exist. She wasn't forced to get on that elevator and off that floor, she did it willingly knowing with facts what was happening to women. The woman forced to defend themselves, now has to fight the stigma because of other women. The innocent women who did not know what they were walking into will have to defend their actions because other women with knowledge created the illusion that they had the facts and didn't like the results. Many times women are our own worse enemies.
For tailhook there is no shortage of blame to be passed around regarding the behavior.