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Please STRONGLY encourage your DS to stay the course at least, at the very minimum, through this first semester. There are some fun things to enjoy in the fall in COS: football will begin and while that is not always so joyful (it is NOT the Pittsburgh Steelers, after all), it can be fun and if they win, what's not to love?
Do not forget his sponsor family. They can be a great asset to him, if he's feeling blue or just needing some R&R (on Sundays) or a home cooked meal.
One thing I want to tell flymom19: this decision absolutely must be your son's. It is a nerve-testing time for parents, especially if you were very involved in your child's education/life up to the time he left. Transition periods can be exceptionally painful (been there, done that, sent the post card AND bought the T-shirt), but once the transition is made, life takes on a calmer quality. If you influence your son in any way, two years from now, or five, or fifteen, or fifty!, your son may look back and BLAME you. Too hovering, too into my business, too willing to have me closer to home... whatever the reasons, real or false, he may not see his current problem as teenaged angst and homesickness, but as mom's interference.
I might suggest to you that your son needs a sounding board, NOT any action AT ALL from his parents, especially from dear Mom, who may be still willing to make his bed, bake him up some cookies, and give him the keys to the minivan for a trip to the mall. I might even suggest telling him that if he does return home, things will be different (him being an adult now, and all). Also, remind him that if he does opt to leave and go to State U or wherever, he's in a worse place there than he is in right now. Knows no one, coming in late, getting the worst room on campus, worst schedule, etc.
This mom is all for offering an ear and shedding a tear, in private. But I would not offer any advice, at all.
Do not forget his sponsor family. They can be a great asset to him, if he's feeling blue or just needing some R&R (on Sundays) or a home cooked meal.
One thing I want to tell flymom19: this decision absolutely must be your son's. It is a nerve-testing time for parents, especially if you were very involved in your child's education/life up to the time he left. Transition periods can be exceptionally painful (been there, done that, sent the post card AND bought the T-shirt), but once the transition is made, life takes on a calmer quality. If you influence your son in any way, two years from now, or five, or fifteen, or fifty!, your son may look back and BLAME you. Too hovering, too into my business, too willing to have me closer to home... whatever the reasons, real or false, he may not see his current problem as teenaged angst and homesickness, but as mom's interference.
I might suggest to you that your son needs a sounding board, NOT any action AT ALL from his parents, especially from dear Mom, who may be still willing to make his bed, bake him up some cookies, and give him the keys to the minivan for a trip to the mall. I might even suggest telling him that if he does return home, things will be different (him being an adult now, and all). Also, remind him that if he does opt to leave and go to State U or wherever, he's in a worse place there than he is in right now. Knows no one, coming in late, getting the worst room on campus, worst schedule, etc.
This mom is all for offering an ear and shedding a tear, in private. But I would not offer any advice, at all.