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I am glad to hear you are planning to go ahead to USAFA. Be open to life’s twists and turns, be prepared for change in yourself and in what’s important to you, be prepared for your GF to change as well. That’s what happens to people. Your relationships either grow and change and adapt as the two of you mature, or not. No way to know, except to be honest and give it your best effort.
Good things. You will be confident you are building a strong foundation for your future, in or out of uniform. You will make some of the best friends you will ever have. You have the opportunity to be generous in spirit and cheer your girlfriend on her new journey with a whole heart, and if you get through the tests that lie ahead, you will build a strong core of a balanced adult relationship that can survive all kinds of challenges. DH and I have been married 39 years, dual military couple for a big part of it, many separations, deployments, missed events, and we grew stronger as individuals as well as a couple. He cheered me on, I cheered him on, we were brutally honest, we made sacrifices. We feel we can handle almost anything, because we feel we have a bond of steely strength that has gotten us through all kinds of hurdles. Treat your GF’s goals and dreams, talents and gifts, with the same care and respect you hope for from her. Promise each other that if feelings change, you will let the other person know, out of respect and kindness, avoiding “bad breakup drama.”
Last bit of advice. The biggest fights, upsets and relationship failures usually seem to arise from assumptions and expectations, and the failure to communicate about these upfront.
Good things. You will be confident you are building a strong foundation for your future, in or out of uniform. You will make some of the best friends you will ever have. You have the opportunity to be generous in spirit and cheer your girlfriend on her new journey with a whole heart, and if you get through the tests that lie ahead, you will build a strong core of a balanced adult relationship that can survive all kinds of challenges. DH and I have been married 39 years, dual military couple for a big part of it, many separations, deployments, missed events, and we grew stronger as individuals as well as a couple. He cheered me on, I cheered him on, we were brutally honest, we made sacrifices. We feel we can handle almost anything, because we feel we have a bond of steely strength that has gotten us through all kinds of hurdles. Treat your GF’s goals and dreams, talents and gifts, with the same care and respect you hope for from her. Promise each other that if feelings change, you will let the other person know, out of respect and kindness, avoiding “bad breakup drama.”
Last bit of advice. The biggest fights, upsets and relationship failures usually seem to arise from assumptions and expectations, and the failure to communicate about these upfront.