No parent thinks their kid smokes or drinks.
42.6% of 12th graders have smoked at least once.
http://www.sadd.org/stats.htm http://www.edgarsnyder.com/drunk-driving/underage-statistics.html http://www.whitehousedrugpolicy.gov/drugfact/marijuana/marijuana_ff.html
A lot are wrong. I don't know if your kids did or didn't and its none of my business. I do find it interesting that you said they don't drink or smoke because they have big plans for the future. I guess most America doesn't have plans for the future. I guess 40 years ago when 18 year olds were allowed to drink none of them had plans. Like I said, I guess our founding fathers didn't have plans for the future.
It is questioning their integrity when you say that they are "fine with the poor decisions". He came asking for help. He obviously is not fine with his decisions. He would have simply lied if he did not care.
I am worked up because of how naive people are. Kids going to service academies are doing these things whether you want to believe it or not.