WonderGirl1965
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I was your mom. I knew the service academies were prestigious. I knew it was an honor to get in but really? The Navy? Sentry duty at the gate? Stuck at sea for months? Really?
You see when you send your child to college, you are sending them to college. They can come home if they fail a test or someone breaks their heart. You can can sneak up and surprise them by decorating their dorm room for their birthday. You can send a sibling up to stay with them for the weekend. You have long semester breaks where your kid can still take family vacations.... switch to a local college if the family needs them.... or come home to do their laundry if the school is close enough. But they are still your kid! The perception we have (I had) is that when they walk into Bancroft on I day, they are no longer your kid because now they belong to the Navy and the US Government! That was a hard pill to swallow!
But then there is love. I love my daughter and want her happiness more than I want my own. And then there is logic. It isn't my life to live it is hers. So I came around. Especially after CVW. I fully support her and want it because she wants it. She teases me and says that I'm more anxious about waiting for an appointment than she is. She teases me about being on this forum. What she doesn't get - yet anyway - is that this is called being a parent. I will be the best damn Mid parent, but I would also be the best damn college parent, or waitress' parent, or grandma, or whatever she chooses for her life because I'm her mom and that's just what we do. Finally, the little town of Annapolis sells itself. It is adorable!
Good luck but I'm not sure you'll need it... if the Academy is sending you invitations to visit you are the type of kid who has a lot of options and a lot on the ball. You will be successful whichever path you take.
You see when you send your child to college, you are sending them to college. They can come home if they fail a test or someone breaks their heart. You can can sneak up and surprise them by decorating their dorm room for their birthday. You can send a sibling up to stay with them for the weekend. You have long semester breaks where your kid can still take family vacations.... switch to a local college if the family needs them.... or come home to do their laundry if the school is close enough. But they are still your kid! The perception we have (I had) is that when they walk into Bancroft on I day, they are no longer your kid because now they belong to the Navy and the US Government! That was a hard pill to swallow!
But then there is love. I love my daughter and want her happiness more than I want my own. And then there is logic. It isn't my life to live it is hers. So I came around. Especially after CVW. I fully support her and want it because she wants it. She teases me and says that I'm more anxious about waiting for an appointment than she is. She teases me about being on this forum. What she doesn't get - yet anyway - is that this is called being a parent. I will be the best damn Mid parent, but I would also be the best damn college parent, or waitress' parent, or grandma, or whatever she chooses for her life because I'm her mom and that's just what we do. Finally, the little town of Annapolis sells itself. It is adorable!
Good luck but I'm not sure you'll need it... if the Academy is sending you invitations to visit you are the type of kid who has a lot of options and a lot on the ball. You will be successful whichever path you take.