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Chock- I'm gonna speak as a Dad and a Married man more than as a retired soldier. Everything I say is just my opinion but most of your questions are just asking for opinions anyway. Here goes:
You're gonna move in the Army- alot. I moved 14 times in my career- which was the exciting part. You see the world and the country and you don't get stale in your job. Is that the norm- I don't know- there were folks who homesteaded- (My brother spent the last 8 years of his career in Seoul and retired there) and I think prior to the War that the Army was tying to stabilize and reduce the number of PCS moves that folks make. Is there a cost to moving? Yes- my son moved for the last time at the start of his Junior year in HS. But on the whole- great experience and a lot of fun. Do you get to pick? Well you get to request- and if you are lucky and the Army needs you there because of your specialty - then you get where you want. The only two assignments I hated where places that I picked. All the rest the Army picked and they were great- either because of geography or the unit I was with.
(Here comes Dad)You can't live your life looking for certainties. You will find what you need where ever you are. Long Distance relationships for long periods aren't optimal for certain- but who says that is anymore likely in the Army than anywhere else? This isn't 1956 anymore- the double career couple is pretty much either the norm or getting there quickly and that means that you will be faced with challenges as to whose career comes first, where you live etc... I see this in the corporate world all the time now in the engineers and managers who I have working for me. Life is complicated wherever you wind up.
(Half Dad/Half Soldier speaking) I will tell you that the Army is the most ethnically diverse environment in the world. That is good- it rips you out of the cocoon that most of us live in. You will have the whole world to choose from and you will run into all of them including a large % of whatever race you are. My brother married a Korean girl & my sister a full blooded Hawaiian. Neither of them now have whiteblond Norwegian/Swedish children -but they have wonderful spouses and really beautiful children (well they were children- now most of them are your age or older).
Finally- (Dad again): Don't sweat the future. If the thought of not being in total control of your time and life then you won't like the Army. But at 18 most folks have little concept of what lies ahead regardless of what field they choose- so don't overthink the details. It will work out
First off, thanks for the deep, personal insight. Its always the best to hear it from someone whos been there and done it.
I had several comments and questions though. Firstly I wanted to say that Im surprised at the number of times you relocated...14 years! I am going to guess you served for at least 30 years before retiring, and Ill have to say that must have been very frequent.
Isn't it emotionally as well as physically tough on your family to move so often? I know I cant generalize - there are families completely comfortable with it and those who aren't, but I cant help thinking about how hard it must have been for your wife and kids. Did moving 14 times literally mean living in 14 different homes and your kids going to 14 schools? Or, did you leave your wife and children behind at a permanent location in the US somewhere? Either way, it must have been tough being away from home. It sounds like you had the time of your life traveling the world, but does everything really do work out as well as it did for you? Isn't it difficult to raise kids when you're away from home so often and for so long? Im sorry if I sound prying, but its an aspect of military life that Ive always wanted to know about.
Really? Coming from a retired soldier, I would have to trust you since you were there, but I always under the impression that the Army was primarily composed of whites...I mean thats what I always see on Army tv ads and brochures at least. But that certainly is not a problem when I started considering the military, though, since I think I get along well with most people. I guess its a bit stereotypical and the real situation is different in an officership.
And thanks for the last few sentences...although Im not quite 18 yet (this month I will be), you're probably right when you say I'm taking it too seriously. But its tough to not think about it...I only have a vague idea of what I want to do with my life and Im just trying to prepare for the future by considering all options and preparing for the worst.