As has been noted here, many of the day to day discussions among SA parents have moved to FB and as such, I've watched some painful lessons learned since I-day last summer. To qualify my comments, I'm a USAFA grad with a DS that's a current plebe in 2021. I'm not trying to snark or troll anyone, rather, simply to make some simple recommendations that may help future aspiring candidates and their parents. 1. Do use SAF for your more complex questions and observations, especially those that may have negative connotations. Given the experience and vast perspective of the veterans around this site, this is the best place to get your tough questions answered in as 'confidential' a format as possible. 2. Do use a handle that keeps folks from identifying you or your candidate, MIDN, Cadet or otherwise. 3. Do try to be as positive and encouraging as possible with folks, across the board as the whole process is more than stressful enough. That being said, the tough love that occasionally comes from this site's veterans should be taken seriously. Now a couple obvious do nots and I'll shut up: 1. Don't ever post direct pictures of text messages, laptop views, grades or any other communications directly from your MIDN. Those tend to serve the parents (all of whom are named directly, so very obvious violations of rule #2 above), mainly of the helicopter variety, rather than the person actually in the academy, working their tail off. Nothing positive can happen with such posts, other than a parent reveling in the number of likes and comments, and many, many negative things can happen, most often unforeseen in their consequence. 2. Never celebrate your kid falling out...I saw several pictures this plebe summer of kids on crutches with 'chits' and parents happy that their child was given a couple days off to rest. While there are always legitimately injured folks, which is no shame, there are also notorious 'chit surfers' that lose the respect of their classmates very quickly. 3. Finally, never, EVER ask for help for your MIDN in such an open forum as FB. I watched this fall as a mother said, 'I may or may not be doing the right thing, but my MIDN, whose name is X, in Company X, needs help!' 12 hours later, she had to delete her post after 100 plus comments, and her dear child was completely humiliated and given so much attention that I'm sure he/she were pretty much hating their parent's insecurity by the time it was over. I wanted to go back and answer her first sentence and say 'NO, you are not doing the right thing!' I'm hoping there are other lessons learned that may be helpful here, hence the thread...when I attended, back in the brown shoe days, there was no internet, so things were far easier. Am hoping those of you who've seen similar situations will chime in.