Ugh, I have been learning about ROTC and the levels/ tiers and so forth in another thread and whoo boy, it would certainly be helpful for him if he wanted to be an engineer! Or even if he wanted to be anything STEM, especially as someone pointed out in that thread, he will essentially end up with a minor in Engineering anyway via Navy! And he does fine in those subjects - he's an A student and is taking AP Calc AB, Physics and AP Bio this year and has already also taken Chem, so he is certainly capable.
So I don't know, I really don't, and this is where as a parent I want to throw up my hands and run screaming from the room.. He would have a better shot with either of the first two tiers and his stats are all very good. But would he be happy majoring in something from Tier 2? I have no idea!
Also, just to lay it all out there, I had a hard time coming to grips with him wanting to do anything military related at all.. my Mom lost her Dad in the war as a preschool child and it (obviously) had a huge and lasting effect on her and that fear has rippled down to me. It has taken a lot for me to get over myself and support his dreams and his right to follow them. Progress has been made, but I have a real fear of him going Marine or SEAL, or even Army for that matter just because the risk is that much higher...
I know, I am definitely still a work in progress, being dragged along on my belly here..!
Has your son expressed which branch he is interested in serving in? If it's Navy then yes, there are less tier 3 scholarships available....but he has to be happy with what he is studying. I'd suggest if his heart lies in tier 3, then apply for it and hope for the best. You don't want to have him apply for a tier 1 or 2, win it, and then be miserable for four years and even beyond with a degree he doesn't like. This is just my opinion, and I'm sure there are plenty who would disagree with me on that.
As for your fears of SEALs or Marines, I can relate. Our daughter wanted EOD (explosive ordnance disposal-bomb diffusing), since she was young, maybe 13 or so. It was the highest/hardest job open to women at the time. When the Navy opened all jobs to women, she then set her sights on SEALs. (Hence, my username
). She'd applied to USNA last year and had a nom but was turned down and so she chose VMI. If she'd gone to USNA she would have had 4 years to decide Navy or Marines, but of course at VMI she needed to pick her branch for Matriculation. She chose Marines and is doing great, and we are happy for her.
Mom to mom, either SEALs, EOD or Marines are the toughest, scariest parts of our military.....but they are also some of the most well-trained (aside from nukes and pilots, of course). They are highly trained in their jobs, and to me highly trained means CAPABLE! Your son will be taught very well, even more so through either USNA or ROTC as an officer. He will have four years of military training before he even goes to his "specially" school.
As for being overwhelmed, take a deep breath. Your son will be doing all of the applications, and aside from throwing money at visiting colleges or buying an interview suit etc, there really isn't much you can do, or even should be doing. If this is something he really wants, he will do it. Leave it in his hands.