Things don't always work out the way you planned

Discussion in 'Naval Academy - USNA' started by teammom, Nov 2, 2018.

  1. teammom

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    This time last year, my son had completed his applications to all three service academies. He was like most of the applicants: an A student with numerous AP and honors courses, lettered in two varsity sports, lead in the school musical, president of the largest service club on campus, treasurer of NHS, numerous service hours, etc... You get the picture. We live in a very competitive area of Texas per this forum and he even received an nomination from one of our senators. All that being said, when March rolled around, he received his rejection email. It was hard for all of us, but especially our son. He had been accepted to every college to which he applied, but wasn't excited about any of them. After a month passed, he spent the night with cadets at Texas A&M. He enjoyed it but still wasn't excited. He had ever intention of reapplying to the academies during his freshmen year. Fast forward...he loves A&M and has NO desire to leave. He feels like he was meant to go to college there. He's a member of the Corps and is thriving. I'm writing to remind anyone reading this that sometimes things work out the way they are supposed to. If your child doesn't get in to a service academy, it's not the end of the world. In fact, it may be the start of the best thing that ever happened to him/her. Best of luck to all of you!
     
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    Gig ‘em!
     
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    When did your son submit his entire application? (Besides the DoDMERB & nominations)
     
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    Well said, @teammom. One of the best lines I’ve learned on this forum is “bloom wherever you’re planted.” A hard concept for disappointed young people to understand, but so true.
     
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    Above was my post from several years ago. My DS is about to graduate from Norwich this spring and he is exactly where he was meant to be. So happy for him and so proud. He has loved Norwich! Go Army Beat Navy..wait ..my youngest is a plebe at USNA.. Go Navy Go Army!! That's better. Good luck to all. it is a process.
     
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  7. teammom

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    He submitted his USNA application in August and went to his Candidate Weekend visit in Sept. He completed the Westpoint/Air Force applications in Sept. He heard back very quick that he was 3Q-no waiver needed. He applied for nominations from all sources. Once he received a nomination from one of our senators in early Dec, he was notified by our representative that his interview was cancelled. You only get one nomination in our area.
     
  8. teammom

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    Bloom where you're planted has been my motto for 25 years. We've moved six times and my kids have heard me preach this a million times. When our son called to tell us he didn't want to reapply, his quote was "I've decided to bloom where I'm planted."
     
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  9. teammom

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    I love your post. Nothing better than watching our kids find their way. Best of luck to both of your kiddos.
     
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    This is why, at the end of my sticky on "reapplying," I remind folks that they may well end up loving the school/situation they're in -- and to embrace that. :) Really glad that it worked out so well for your DS!
     
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    I love this too...as a military family that has a few moves under their belt, my oldest has also heard this many many times from me. During his BGO interview when asked what he would do if not chosen for a spot, he said he would bloom where he is planted! Although he would love to attend a SA if he does get the TWE, he will be disappointed but will do great at whatever school he ultimately attends.
     
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    I am so enjoying this thread. It’s such a valuable perspective when posters return with updates of how things worked out.
     
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    Last week, I was at the funeral of the father of some very close Jewish friends. The gentleman was in his 90's and died suddenly of a massive stroke.

    In the eulogy, his son spoke wistfully of the the plans his father had for the weeks and months ahead. He said he was reminded of an admonition he often got from his Grandmother, a refugee from Czarist Russia: "A man makes plans and God only laughs."
     
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