I hope it doesnt sound bad to say this, but when I dropped my son at West Point for R day I thought, "you have to be a special kid to be here", and then I saw the young ladies who were being dropped of by their parents, and said to my wife, "their folks must be even more proud, if that is possible". Those gals are going into a field traditionally dominated by men, and I am certain the stigmas and prejudices still exist with some (hopefully fewer as time goes on), thus requiring something beyond what a man would need in terms of earning respect. Then, when you consider what the women pioneers in the military had to do to earn their spot, and earn respect.
I know my father. a Korean War Vet, discouraged my sister from doing ROTC, because he had concerns about sexual advances and other abuses, as well as barriers to promotion. This was during the late 70's. It is good to see that there have been improvements since then. Indeed, I encouraged my daughter, a college sophomore, to consider ROTC. Even reminded her she would be commissioned before her brother. She isn't interested though. But because of those, like Capt, and others, a great military career is an option for young women who have that calling.