Im in the same boat - and its not fun. I will never be able to play a varsity sport. Not because I have a lack of effort or athletic ability, though. Im an avid bike racer, but obviously thats not a interscholastic varsity sport.
At my school, nearly all varsity athletes in main sports (football, basketball, wresting, hockey, lax,) are recruited in from around the country, and many will play D1 sports. My main sport, wrestling, is composed of nearly all D1 wrestlers. Im a good wrestler, but Im not at the D1 level. I know that feeling of not being able to get on a varsity sport.