The share of ever utterance remark:
My son is home and what I know is what he happened to share. He's a tough kid, strong willed and independent. He has also been a varsity athlete and knows perfectly well about being part of the team and has dealt with lots of adversity and challenges. He roomed with s prior and that prior found this bct more difficult than his previous 2 trainings. The point is that the flights are all managed differently. Good or bad. Yes, just like the real world. It's unfortunate though, that some dreams may have been cut short due to the power trip of a few young cadre with personal grievances and agendas. This has nothing to do with lack of ability or desire to serve.
Afmom, I'm very sorry that your son is now home but you make some very strong accusations for someone who was not there. How do you know cadre had personal grievance and agendas? Was your son privy to this information or this an assumption based on his experience?
You are understandably upset and hurt, but a lot of what you are saying looks to me like you are angry and looking for someone to put the blame on. Did the thought occur to you that maybe your son REALLY didn't want to be there and instead of admitting it to you and you getting upset with him for quitting he deflects to the Cadre Abuse as an excuse? That would sure take any pressure off of him and you'd certainly never be the wiser. I'm not saying it went down that way, but it is possible.
As others have stated there are regular AF personnel with the cadre directly supervising them. What you are accusing seems a stretch. I wasn't there and won't say there wasn't abuse, but neither were you....
Remember these accusation you are making are at another person's son/daughter.