I'm assuming he forwarded you his orders. He had no part in making the orders? Did he think about getting that straightened out before he went to LDAC (I'm not sure what that is because I wasn't ROTC). Honestly, dealing with your sons orders for him certainly seems like a helicopter parent thing to do.
My entire time as a cadet, my parents were involved with one thing. During the application process I got hung up in DODMERB and my MD father talked to the DODMERB MD about the issue, and what length I would need to go to check the DODMERB box for that old and then irrelevant issue. It was all in medical terms, blah blah blah, I don't think I would have been much good in that discussion. Advice came back and I did what I had to do, and eventually got the waiver.
That was the first, and last time my parents were directly involved. I wrote to my parents over Swab Summer. They wrote back, just updates on how things were at home. My friends wrote to me too. Sure on ROUGH weeks during my next 4 years I would call and vent. I never felt like i needed to check in. They certainly weren't pushing me to call.
Beyond a doctor talking to a doctor after the application process had been completed, that's where they stopped being directly involved.
You have got to be kidding me.
Not that I feel the need but here is a bit of explanation for you.
Yes, my son did forward a copy of his orders to us because we were listed as his transportation to the Airport so we needed to know his flight times.
Yes, son handled his own orders, we didn't know anything about them other then when he was reporting since we live close we also were listed as the party that would drop him off at Ft. Lewis since he would be at home the month before LDAC started.
Yes again, he had it "Straightened out before he left school, at that point the orders were correct.
Your right, you don't know about LDAC or AROTC or how the orders are cut from Cadet Command.
My son had his orders taken care of before he left school. Since we live close to Ft. Lewis, where LDAC is held, he made arrangements ahead of time for us to be able to pick him up so he could spend a night at home before he flew to Ft. Bragg. His orders had him flying out of Seattle the day after LDAC. A week after he had started LDAC the HR at his ROTC for some reason decided to change his orders to have him fly out of the airport next to his school which is a 5 hour drive from where we live. The HR somehow thought this was a good idea and thought they were doing him a favor. Since the HR knew we were picking him up and were now responsible for getting him to the Airport they sent us a copy of his revised flight orders so we knew where to take him, they also sent a copy to LDAC which he would not get until a couple days before graduation. The copy of the orders were addressed to us and had a letter included asking us if this was correct and acceptable, again because we were responsible to get him there. The HR asked us to call if there were any questions. Yes I called, I talked to her and explained that the original orders were correct and that we had planned to take him to the local Airport that was listed on the original orders. The HR apologized for her mistake, thanked us for getting back to her and clearing it up. She changed the flight orders that day back to the original orders.
Now call me what you want, if that's a helicopter parent then so be it.
I'm sure someone will call it hovering because we picked him up at LDAC to spend the night at home with his family. Of course there were a lot of hovering parents, wives and husbands doing the same thing that day so it must be an epidemic.
Next time have somewhat of a grasp of things before you make a snap judgement.
Since you now seem to have a firm handle on the workings of Army ROTC battalions, Cadet Command, and how the Army ROTC handle their orders I will make sure my son checks in with you the next time he has any questions.
Now everyone can go back to competing to see who is the best parent or just how much you did things on your own. Now I know the rules, don't talk to your kid more then once a month, don't ever try and advise them on anything. and for God's sake don't offer any help, because our parents Never helped us, at least not that we choose to remember.
