Centurion:
Not sure I fully understand all of the points you were covering, but if the question is "leadership" I am not sure I would look to Netflix or any similar sources for those answers.
First, No college in the US (excepting the Service Academies) teach leadership - formally.
However, there are different paths to accomplish the same goal. ROTC provides good leadership training. All branches. Is it the same as the service academies? No. However a "great" leader could even be successful without military training. Tougher, but still possible. I once had a customer who had 38 employees. Back then I considered him almost crazy in some of the things he said and did. Today he has over 250,000 employees and makes such a wide range of products that I guarantee you have one of his products in your home. Is he or any of his companies well known? Nope. (BTW he has only one shareholder for all of his companies - himself) But I have NEVER met such a passionate, ferocious leader of his people. He could write a check and buy any airline in the US. However, he flies coach. Huh? Why? To set the example for his people to keep costs DOWN. Again leadership in a different form. He is saying to his people - Follow ME.
That last point is to me one of the key ingredients of many if not all GREAT leaders. They lead by personal example.