I thought I would start a thread for the cadets that will be going AD in a few short months of actual experience from members of types of commanders they will face. No names needed, just what they were like and how to approach the situation. As much as the cadets believe they have been taught leadership, many times theoretics doesn't match with reality. It might just assist them when they hit the ground! For me as a spouse, all I can say is that it is not uncommon for the golden boy/girl under 1 commander become a nothing under the new. The reason is simple, Commanders want to make it their own command, thus, just like corporate they make their own new inner circle. Everytime a new commander comes in just realize a new hand is being dealt at the table. As a spouse, I would say the best commander we ever had was Gen. Gould (new supe at the AFA). He was not a micro-manager and understood that the family was integral part of the military members life. When our DD broke his arm and it took almost 3 days to have it set, he called in Bullet to see if he needed any assistance within the military system. I'll leave the worst for Bullet. For me it was a deeply religious couple that openly inserted JC or G*d into every speech. I say this b/c Bullets mother is Jewish,(we are not) so when you hear JC, our Lord and Savior it can make people who do not believe in JC feel very uncomfortable. As a military member you defend the constitution which seperates Church and State. As a professional you drop off your personal beliefs at the door when you enter and pick them up when you leave. As a leader you need to lead everyone, that means being sensitive to the beliefs of those that you command inserting religious views does not assist in that function.