Merlinity; just to clarify a thought or two.
You are correct. You don't have to "Love" the idea of the academy before you attend. As I mentioned previously, the academy is simply a PATH. A Path to becoming a commissioned officer in the military. There's a lot of people with your similar understanding. Just like you said, they have the opinion that "They can TRY" the academy. And while there are some that apply and accept an appointment to the academy and "Try" it out; many of these individuals will usually drop out and quit. The academy is unique, in that it WILL let you "Try it out" and quit if you don't like it. I have mixed feeling about this. If you were to "Enlist" in the air force, you MAKE a COMMITMENT. You're pretty much going to stay in for at least the first 4 years. Whether you like it or not. The academy lets you quit, within the first two years, because they'd rather waste the time and money on that little amount of education and training, than to have you as a dysfunctional officer with a bad attitude INFECTING the enlisted personnel and other officers you are involved with. In the military, your PRIMARY JOB is to "Fight and Win". With a bad attitude as an officer, you can cost people THEIR LIVES.
But anyway; you can definitely accept an appointment and "Try it out"; but going in with that attitude, will make you less likely to succeed. The right attitude is; "You want to serve your country; everything they throw at you at the academy (even though you might not understand it) is leading towards that service to your country; and that you TRUST the academy/system that they are preparing you to be a military leader and to serve your country." That attitude will allow you to ACCEPT that which you do not know or understand. Without that attitude, you will constantly question the academy's methods, which YOU THINK you KNOW BETTER. Yet, they've been doing this for 64 years in the air force; 173 years for the Navy; and 216 years for the Army. IN OTHER WORDS. They don't NEED your OPINION, or you SECOND GUESSING their methods. If you can ACCEPT that, and TRUST them, then you will probably succeed. If you can't handle having them tell you what you CAN and CAN'T DO, many times without telling you why; then the military is NOT FOR YOU.
When you said: "I understand during BCT they're trying to show to us that every single person there has the same capability." Kinnem is totally correct. "You have NO IDEA". Let me give you a little hint; which is going to go AGAINST your grain (Based on a number of your previous comments about "individuality").
Remember previously, I mentioned that the Military is 100% about "THE TEAM". ONE of the many things about BCT, is that they are taking in approximately 1,200 INDIVIDUALS. These individuals come from ALL 50 states, US Territories, they have different religions, morals, values, etc. They all have different upbringings. They are black, white, hispanic, asian, etc. in backgrounds. They come from traditional families, single parents, adopted parent, foster homes, orphanages, etc. They come from public schools, private schools, home schools, and online schools. They come from the urban/inner city, the suburbs, rural ranch/farms. You name the diversity, and the academy HAS IT there. You name the INDIVIDUALITY, and the academy has it there. ONE of the MAIN PURPOSES of BCT, is to STRIP AWAY ALL of this INDIVIDUALITY. YES, that's what I said. You keep talking about your proud individuality, but one of the main purposes of BCT is to STRIP AWAY this individuality, so that ALL BCT Trainees can FIND THEIR COMMONALITIES. In order to BE A TEAM, you must build upon what you HAVE IN COMMON. NOT YOUR INDIVIDUALITY. The military is 100% about the TEAM. So, the academy takes 1,200 INDIVIDUALS, strip that individuality so they can find their COMMONALITIES, so they can LEARN to work as a TEAM. They even provide tasks, usually VERY PHYSICAL, that are IMPOSSIBLE to do AS an Individual. They structure your time, so you can't possibly complete many tasks WITHOUT THE HELP OF OTHERS. Many of the appointees/cadets, besides being Big Fish in Little Ponds back in high school, were very good at accomplishing things ON THEIR OWN. Not possible in BCT and at the academy. Many complain about WHY it's so important in the application process that the applicants be involved in SPORTS. (It has NOTHING to do with Physical Fitness; that's what the CFA test is for). It's because in SPORTS, you're part of a TEAM. 1 player on a football team CAN'T WIN the game without the OTHERS on the team. Same with MOST SPORTS. Even with individual sports, there's usually a "TEAM MENTALITY" during the training sessions. Each helping out the other. It's ALL ABOUT THE TEAM.
BUT, I will say that the academy and military will allow you (In Time) to take your individual personality, individual skills, and INDIVIDUALITY as a whole, and let it grow. With the PURPOSE of using your individuality to BETTER the TEAM.
So, if you truly want to attend a military academy OR ROTC, and you want to succeed, then the BEST WAY to go about deciding if this is right for you or not, is to accept certain things.
1. ACCEPT: The military is 100% about THE TEAM, NOT the INDIVIDUAL.
2. ACCEPT: You have NO IDEA what you're getting into when going to the academy or ROTC, but recognize and ACCEPT that the academies/ROTC have been doing this a LONG TIME. Therefor, TRUST THEM. "WITHOUT QUESTION".
3. ACCEPT: That the NEEDS of the Military COME FIRST. BEFORE YOURS!
4. ACCEPT: That you are there to SERVE YOUR COUNTRY. It MAY or may NOT be doing what YOU WANT.
The military, academy and ROTC ARE NOT Scholarship Programs or Jobs Programs. Even though you hear the word scholarship in many discussions, that's ONLY to USE COMMON TERMINOLOGY for people with no military background to understand. The military is looking for people to "Serve Their Country; by being WILLING TO DIE if necessary". That's what it's ALL ABOUT. IN RETURN, (Because ALL humans experience the Risk vs Reward innate survival instinct); the military is willing to give you an education; PAY YOU for your time as a student where you're not really contributing yet; and guarantee you a PAID JOB with BENEFITS for "X" amount of years of service.
Some may want to "Romanticize" this more, but the fact remains, the military/country needs a certain number of individuals who are WILLING to Serve their country, up to and including possibly DYING in that service. In return they (Government/Military) are willing to try and make it WORTH YOUR TIME and COMMITMENT. (The worth is based on how much you give them). I.e. officer at the academy/rotc vs enlisted; 10 year pilot commitment vs 5 year commitment for jobs requiring no additional extensive training. Airman Basic 4 year commitment vs Airman First Class 6 year commitment or enlistee with prior college. The point is; it's NOT a SCHOLARSHIP OR JOBS PROGRAM. It's 100% "Quid Pro Quo". Many scholarship/jobs programs don't require a commitment. You get a scholarship, you get your degree, you move on with your life.
Anyway; you have a LOT to think about. It's better to know the TRUTH and make an informed decision, than to have some Hollywood Movie opinion and make an EMOTIONAL decision.
Is the academy/ROTC (And ultimately, the military) right for you????? HOW MUCH are you WILLING to GIVE of YOURSELF and your INDIVIDUALITY, including the POSSIBILITY of DYING; in RETURN for an education, guaranteed paid job for a certain number of years, and certain benefits? In the end...... that's what it ALL comes down to.
best of luck