Dealing with severe homesickness

Cadet35

Cadet35

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Anyone have advice with this? All of these covid regulations seem to be a nuisance, & feels unnecessary at times. I know I have the option to go all online and return home which adds to it. I really love home and I’m super close with my family so it’s just been tough.
 
You have a choice of staying at school or going home?
 
This is a known thing. Wait a number of weeks. Hopefully dear parents can visit 4-6 weeks after. which is when colleges schedule these things

DS called regularly prior to this period. <prepare for humble brag - Until he called to tell us his paper was selected as an example for how to answer an assignment- end humble brag>.

We went to parents weekend. He ghosted us.
 
Cadet35 said:
Anyone have advice with this? All of these covid regulations seem to be a nuisance, & feels unnecessary at times. I know I have the option to go all online and return home which adds to it. I really love home and I’m super close with my family so it’s just been tough.
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You will face a lot of nuisance regulations unrelated to COVID in your life. This is the time to learn how to navigate things that are new and annoying. Focus on the positives of being at college rather than the illusion that home would be better. Focus on your long term goals over short term comfort. Find ways to make meaningful connections with others on campus. Know that this is a normal feeling and it won’t last. You can get through it. Ask for help from university resources if you need it. You’ve got this!
 
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Right. Just when I am walking alone outside & I get screamed at to put my mask on it gets some getting used to I guess.
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Yeah, that would totally suck and likely make me mad. But, you can smile and wave and put the mask on, it is frustrating to everyone and fear rules some people differently than others. Hang in there, whatever crap day you may have, don't make decisions when in your darkest place. The suck cannot last forever, at least that's what I keep telling my kid.
 
Embrace "The Suck" it will serve you well down the road. Look for the funny in all things. Even getting screamed at or smoked can have you internally laughing. The only true statement my lying SOB recruiter told me when I shipped out to boot camp was... " no matter what they can't eat you or hit you".... He was only half right. :oops: .

I know it is hard but you will Improvise, Adapt and Overcome your situation..
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Cadet35 said:
Right. Just when I am walking alone outside & I get screamed at to put my mask on it gets some getting used to I guess.
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If that's the hardest thing you have to overcome in life, then I want to live your life. BTW, when all the yelling is going on there is another purpose to it other than to get your mask on, but that's an exercise left to the reader.
 
Can you take the chance and venture to meet new people? It's worth it. Are there any social events that you can branch out to visit? Freshman year is such an exciting time to meet new people at campus ministries/clubs/organizations. That may or may not be going on at your campus - it is at our State U. If your College has those type of events going on - please consider going - this is the year to meet new people and try new things. I bet that you will be an asset to a new group of people. See this year as an adventure!
 
The isolation is a big deal this year. Don't let it sink its teeth into you. The more you think about it, the more you want to go home. Don't sit around and let it get the best of you. Reach out to your COC and talk with them. Everyone is in the same boat this year, don't be afraid to reach out. These are extraordinaire times. You have worked hard to be where you are at. These struggles are temporary and will pass. PM if you just need a vent.

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The isolation is a big deal this year. Don't let it sink its teeth into you. The more you think about it, the more you want to go home. Don't sit around and let it get the best of you. Reach out to your COC and talk with them. Everyone is in the same boat this year, don't be afraid to reach out. These are extraordinaire times. You have worked hard to be where you are at. These struggles are temporary and will pass.

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Another resource is your Residence Hall assistant (RA). He might be able to help you think of some good ways to get involved on campus according to your interests.
 
Torero_dad said:
I would just like to note half-heartedly... you did miss NSI. So you have a screaming deficit to overcome. Thinkings yo're good to mid October. :)
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My fellow '23 midns and I are only slightly, slightly miffed that it's looking like we're going to have been the NSI guinea pigs, miss CORTRAMID, and still have sea trials.

Hopefully Rear Admiral Sands doubles up on CORTRAMID this coming summer so we all get the experience.
 
My situation's different since my parents are an hour and some change from Ole Miss.

They came and visited a few days after I moved in to bring my dinner and a futon I was waiting on for my dorm.

I haven't gotten homesick YET, but I'm sure I will soon.

Get into a routine, friend. Make friends through ROTC, workout, run, this is a time when WE finally get to have control.
 
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