It's been a dream of mine to join the military for quite some time. My parents aren't supportive of my decision to pursue military service and they disapprove of me attending any service academy or ROTC in general. I'm just about done with my applications for NROTC and USNA and my interviews are coming up soon. I have my BGO interview, NROTC interview, DODMERB exam, and nomination interviews within these three upcoming weeks, but my parents won't speak a word regarding any of this. What are my options if they refuse to sign off on it? I'm not 18 yet and I won't be until next fall.
RJY84. I say just do it!
I tell you why. Your parents and many parents will say no don't do it. Because it's not safe. Or because of your religious belief. My mom and my grand mother were all against the service, initially. But my dad and my grand father were always very supportive. And everyone's opinions mattered, because they all have valid point of views. But gradually, they realized that the service meant more in so many ways. I don't want to go into details, but the service can change your life very positively. If you truly want to serve the country first before your self, then you are starting with the right attitude. If you need this for free college, then there are many others to choose from. SA is to serve your country. And the country in turn rewards you for your service by providing one of the best leadership experience for the real life in any profession. And one of the best education you can have. You will also develop and discover things about yourself. Your maxima and minima. You will be a better whole person. I mean that.
If you cannot get your parents consent before the I-Day, then wait a year! And reapply when you are 18+. However, give your family time, give them respect, do not talk them down, listen to their concerns. In the end, you have to live your life. In the SAs you will be living a structured life for 4 years and you will be better prepped for the career. ROTC is another great option. If makes it different for your parents' to hear, USCGA has different mission from the other SAs. CG mission is to save lives and to protect US borders. Army, Navy, Air Force primary mission is national defense and to respond to threats, and cooperate with allies on global conflicts. Of course Army, Navy, Air Force all have non combat positions, so you can also look into those areas. Part of the journey is learning through research and talking to those who already serve in uniform.
Perhaps you look into CG if your parents are concerned of taking arms in combat roles. Again, CG primary mission is life saving and protecting American borders from outside threats seeking to enter the US ports. That can be in cyber or real. And USMMA have different mission at the academy. More option to serve in all services and commission active or reserve duty.
You said your parents are not American. As long as they don't have beef with the US, then you should be fine. I ask this question because you need security clearance at SA and before commissioning. If your family did something illegal against the state or committed terrorism against the state then that's something you need to problem solve how you can not have any of those things stick to you. If nothing of this sort, then nothing to worry about even if your parents are against the military. It is about you that's important. And many parents change, because they truly love you. And that's why they are having this sort of talk with you. So love them back!
Good luck candidate. I do hope you apply to all the SAs and attain your appointment to attend. I think you have the right character to begin your journey!