need advice NOW (going to jail?)

Oh how I wish half the silly things I've said on the internet could just be "deleted". Sorry, life in this period of time doesn't work that way, in fact, even if this was deleted it would still be alive somewhere, so I would just let that go.
The fact that you didn't immediately remove yourself from the frat after the weed instance says volumes to me. You had a band of brothers and you chose these ridiculous frat bros instead.

Quit the frat
Get a lawyer
Pray this doesn't impact your life any further and move on.

Oh and you better believe I will use this as a teaching point for my dd. Good luck to you in the future. I hope that you do some self reflection and avoid people like these frat "brothers" so you can get through college.
Best advice given on this thread is to get a lawyer - and not just any lawyer - a criminal lawyer with experience in getting their clients into pretrial diversion and hopefully longer term your record expunged from public data bases. There are some 60 data bases now that hold court records of civil and criminal cases on individuals. As a former prosecutor, I would do my best to be careful in charging young persons with first offense drug cases. Most kids didn't listen to my lectures on how this affects their futures and ended up back in trouble a second or third time - leading to a terrible job future. If you learn nothing from this - it is every thing you do after the age of 18 years of age is likely going to be on your record for the rest of your life.
For you to have not left this incredibly stupid Frat shows that you truly are not fully committed to your obligation to ROTC. I hope your parents are guiding you correctly.
If what the OP posted is true, the marijuana is the least of the his problems. Possession of under an ounce of marijuana or 4 gram of concentrated cannabis in California is now legal for those 21+. For those under 21 it is an infraction, similar to a speeding ticket. If you are under 18, there is a fine, a four hour drug course and possibly some community service. If you are 18-20, if is just a fine. I believe the offense automatically drops off your record after three years, but can't swear to that.

From section 11357 of the California Health and Safety Code:
(a) Except as authorized by law, possession of not more than 28.5 grams of marijuana, or not more than four grams of concentrated cannabis, or both, shall be punished or adjudicated as follows:

(1) Persons under the age of 18 shall be guilty of an infraction and shall be required to:

(A) Upon a finding that a first offense has been committed, complete four hours of drug education or counseling and up to 10 hours of community service over a period not to exceed 60 days.

(B) Upon a finding that a second offense or subsequent offense has been committed, complete six hours of drug education or counseling and up to 20 hours of community service over a period not to exceed 90 days.

(2) Persons at least 18 years of age but less than 21 years of age shall be guilty of an infraction and punishable by a fine of not more than one hundred dollars ($100).

- See more at:
Here in Cali there are still issues rectifying State and Federal cannabis laws. Getting a lawyer is the best course of action to navigate this legal minefield.

For the OP- leaders very often have to stand alone, even turning your back on those you call friends to do the right thing for you and those around you. What you do next defines your character, and I hope you grow from this personal and challenging experience.
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This is exactly the type of fear mongering I am trying to avoid. Sorry for sounding agitated but you all are trying to nail me to the cross for everyone waking by to see. What happened to me is not normal, and it was my fault. I know that. I do not want more people to know about it as I have already received the help I needed and now I just want some privacy? Mods please delete and lock this thread.

My son joined a fraternity his freshman year. When the hazing included alcohol consumption, as it invariably does, he refused on account of his ROTC involvement. One of the brothers was an MS4 (i.e., senior) and may have backed him up. Maybe the fraternity wanted him more than he wanted them because he still got in though he tired of it a year or two later and quit.

Before this thread gets deleted for sounding like an Al Pacino/Jack Nicholson/John Candy movie, some random thoughts. This fraternity must have really great parties for people to put up with this treatment. At least the hazing didn't include nailing you to a cross. If anyone was actually whipped with a belt, that would constitute criminal assault, possibly felonious. The pledgemaster would also be involved in attempting to conceal a crime. This type of sadistic fun sounds like the sort of thing someone would have done a cell phone video of, maybe put on social media. I wonder how your fellow pledges are handling this.

If your story is true and you do find yourself in the military, or trying to join it, you need to admit to smoking weed. Like I just said, there could be a video.
Mods... this thread has gotten ridiculously out of hand. At least have the decency to lock it so no more replies could be posted. Posters are literally piling over each other to say the exact same thing (hire a layer, leave the frat, you deserve the situation your in).

To put others at ease, I have called cadre and told them about my situation. After a long discussion, we have all agreed to a final verdict. What is that verdict? you can all suck my massive giant ****... because i am NOT saying it here after my privacy has been violated.

I truly HAVE been nailed to the cross and STONED when the mods decided not to do their JOB and take down super controversial threads...

This thread nearly has 4,000 views over like 2 days. PRIVACY PLEASE????
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I suspected it was only a matter of time before Bender crossed the line and was banned. Kind of ironic, I think.
I suspected it was only a matter of time before Bender crossed the line and was banned. Kind of ironic, I think.
I hope he won't be like Bobby and try to return under different names two separate times. :biggrin:
His true colors emerged, showing us all why he is in the trouble "he says" he's in. They say things happen for a reason, and thank goodness he won't be a part of our military.
His true colors emerged, showing us all why he is in the trouble "he says" he's in. They say things happen for a reason, and thank goodness he won't be a part of our military.
This whole scenario certainly lacks an aire of personal responsibility and accountability with a twinge of entitlement.
i understand young people can tend to do stupid things, and i try to muster some sympathy and/or empathy. but then i get to thinking about some of the really outstanding candidates who were not selected for the scholarship, and how they might have handled the situation differently. then i think about those candidates joining as college programmers, and competing for 3 year scholarships, and how those 3 yr scholarships are funded in part by the early termination of some 4 year scholarships. then i think about which candidates might develop into the kind of leaders that we need in our Services and where our limited scholarship funds should be invested.
then i come away thinking that maybe the system is working the way it's supposed to.
Well this is impressive.... OP managed to get banned on his first post/thread. Must be a new record.

I don't know...Bobby was banned in less than 24 hours with his first thread, then in less time than that the second and third time, when he created different profiles.