I think you mean principal, not primary.
I just don't want him rushed and looking back. First and foremost, I think he should receive the appointments before just giving up a nomination to someone else
He has had close to 9 months if not more (if he went SLS) to weigh the options, to me that is a lot of time.
From what I understand he will def. have 2 apptmts, thus he knows he has them, no need for the BFE, unless you do not trust their word. Honestly, if it was my child I would have him contact the SA to verify that he has both apptmts before making the decision.
Honestly, he will always have the what ifs, but he has to call the ball. If after 9 months of waiting and he has yet to lean one way or another, than he needs to ask why he has yet to make up his mind.
You should use this weekend and talk it out. Tell him that on Monday you need to contact the SAs to verify the Cong. apptmt and if that info is correct, you need to make an answer at that time. I am sure he has played the game of what if I get this SA or that SA or no SA, but ROTC. If he has than the answers have already been discussed and the decision was made prior to the call. If he hasn't why hasn't he?
Is the apprehension due to career paths aka fields.... SEAL/Ranger, Helos, etc? If so, there is no guarantee from either SA he attends that he will get it, so he needs to look at the service itself. Remember he will attend an SA for 4 yrs, but owe 5...in other words he will owe more time to the service AD than he will spend hitting the books.
Your moniker is militaryfamily, so I assume you have lived the military life. Anyone who has, knows that the military doesn't always give you months to pick and choose assignments. They can come down in the flash of an eye. Bullet once was offered a position on Thursday night that included moving after being on station for 7 months, he was given until Friday 4 pm to decide.
Just like assignment night, they don't give you months to choose, it goes by OML for the Army and you pick and choose there and then. Yes, you have a clue of what is coming down for months, just like where you are now, but when the moment arrives you can't sit on it for weeks to mull it over.
Also, part of the military is that it is a family, it is not just you, but everyone else. Imagine right now, there is a lurker or a poster from your district that is waiting to hear, and what they read is after 9 months he still can't make a decision. Meanwhile, for the past 10 all they wanted was to be in one particular SA and has to wait even longer to see if he takes it or not.
You are fortunate, and congrats all around, but this is an emotional rollercoaster for many. Most want to get off by now and move on with their lives.
Good luck, G Bless, and thank him and your family for serving.
OBTW, I have no bone in this fight, our kid is not on the rollercoaster ride. We have been there, done that and got the t-shirt yrs ago