It sounds as though you've got the perfect perspective. Keep up your hard work and get to Pensacola.
My 21' is almost done with Primary and he said no one cares what route you took to get there. MY boss (a Retired/Reserve USMC Pilot) always jokes that my son is going to be a "ring knocker" (not him at all). He always said that USNA was a "waste" of his time since the 4 years at the Academy do not count towards your military service years. It doesn't count until he gets his "butter bars", as he says. He always wanted my DS to go PLC. Then he'd have a "real college experience" AND get those years towards service. Is NROTC the same? Just curious. And if anyone has a good comeback for my boss when he says DS "wasted" his time...I'd love to hear some!
Just smile beatifically and don’t engage, as there is always someone who wants to have that discussion, which often turns out to be thinly disguised “some unattractive trait/put down/snarkishness.”
Take the high road. Smile brightly, change the topic, or respond as politicians do, by responding to the question you are pretending they asked. “Thank you for asking about Horatio, he’s doing great, enjoying the challenges of flight school and looking forward to X coming up. What was your favorite memory of flight school? How did you decide on which airframe you wanted? Did you have any jerk instructors? Where did you go on your cross-country flights?” (Inviting a military aviator to share a sea story or war story is a reliable conversational feint.)
Good, mediocre and terrible officers come out of all sources. I find it sad your boss is using tired old tropes to feed something in himself that doesn’t show character, instead of being excited and supportive about your son’s journey, no matter the path. Just sad. So high road it is.
Those 4 years of USNA/USMA/USAFA/USCGA (not USMMA, not AD) AD can count for any federal service down the road, so they are ahead of any commissioning year group peers from ROTC (ROTC is not AD) or other non-AD-time paths. We have 4 USNA sponsor family members now actively serving with some of the big “ABC” agencies, at least two of them doing Interesting Things. Their active duty commissioned officer years AND their 4 solid years at USNA are calculated into good years of federal service for federal retirement eligibility.
Smile beatifically, as noted at the start of my comment. It’s beneath him as an officer to do this. Light-hearted nom-malicious teasing about ring-knockers within the family is one thing. Deeming something a “waste,” “always jokes,” is not the same.