I'm sure that I could get some good sounding board advice from our local AFA Parent's Group, but given the multitude and depth of experiences by folks on this forum, I thought that I'd ask a question here. I'm sorry for the length of this post. To cut to the chase.... I don't hear much anymore from my C4C DS. Over the years my DS has been highly communicative with us (parents) typically venting about problems or sharing positive experiences. All his life he's been "a talker" so to speak. He could go on for hours. It seemed therapeutic at times for him to get his stress of his chest. Now we hear virtually nothing. He handled BCT relatively well. We kept the letters pouring in to him and he even found the time to write back 5 or 6 times during BCT. He said BCT was hell, but he also said he was handling it well enough. He called on Doolie Day out completely exhausted but in decent spirits. When I flew out for A-Day he seemed happy and it was a pleasure meeting some of the cadre that trained him. They seemed genuinely proud of my DS. Sure, they yelled at him too they said with a smile, but both of these upperclassman that pinned on his boards each said they were proud and that he had performed very well thus far. My DS and I took the few hours together on A-Day to have lunch and then visit his room. He seemed almost excited and proud as he showed me around the dorms and rattled off all the rules he had to follow. Although I could see he was he was very tired and stressed during my visit, on my flight home from A-Day I thought to myself that my DS had made a good decision to attend the USAFA. Although incredibly challenging each and every day, it seemed like the Academy was a good fit for his hyper sense of self-discipline and his ability to thrive within a very structured environment. Fast forward to today. Communication is almost non-existent. During Parent's Weekend he was nearly silent. Always deep in thought, seemingly "somewhere else." A few times over the weekend when we were at the movies or watching TV, or having a bite at the restaurant, I would see glimpses of his old self. Laughing and smiling for a brief moment. But then as fast as those moments would arise, his smile would fade away and his somber face would appear. Taking him back to the Academy Monday night he looked so sad. I asked him how he felt about things, but he wouldn't open up at all. No venting. No complaining. He would just say "I'm fine." I made the mistake of asking one time too many if he was "okay" and he told me to quite asking in a very stern tone. I obviously dropped the topic. As the weeks after PW progress, he just doesn't text or call now. If we text him we might get a one word response. Most often he does not reply. He always says he is too busy to take a call. I try to go a few days in between making contact with him via text, but the pause doesn't help. Are there any other families out there with a similar experience? I know it sounds like nothing for some, but given that he used to talk our heads off for 18 years, this lack of communication is somewhat distressing. His tone is always so somber. Our concern is that he is absolutely miserable but won't share it. He made only one comment on PW that eluded to his feelings. He said every morning he wakes up and hates life.... but by half way through the day he was okay. That comment broke my heart. Is this typical 4th Class feelings? Is it easier for him to manage what he's dealing with by not speaking much?