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Line in the Sand, Apparently, I have offended after all and my emotionality (due to a full crisis mode that you have no clue about) and informational seeking efforts were a poor combination and demonstrate inappropriate etiquette for this forum. My apologies.
No apologies needed. I'm fine with people asking questions when they are completely ignorant on the subject. That's just part of the process. For some questions you really need to talk to people. For others, you can look them up yourself. Most schools will have sample classes posted. That's something you can search. Other questions, such as "In your experience how does....." will require someone who has "been there" to respond. I think SAF is a great place for the second type of question. I think because it's a great place for that second type of question, it makes it very easy to skip any kind of research and just pop off questions.
As far as being offended, yes and no.
Over the course of my life I've had plenty to be offended about, but I think even at 31 I'm generally "over" most of it. We can spend out entire lives whining about what we don't want to hear. I'm past that. I'm fine with people saying whatever they'd like and I assume (often wrongly) that they're fine with me responding with my opinions. Specifically with the Coast Guard, you learn to grow thick skin. I appreciate the back and forth with other services. When soldiers, sailors, airmen or Marines want to take a shot at me, I laugh and fire one right back. It's expected. I'm used to people knowing very little about the Coast Guard Academy or the U.S. Coast Guard. It's a small obscure service. If people don't know about them, I saw it as my job, as a public affairs officer, to provide the correct information. But that's not me anymore. So I don't, as much. I'm hard to offend, so don't read the quoted response as my taking direct offense. That's the "no."
The "yes" now, is less for me, and more for others. There's a way to word a question to "take a shot" at someone either intentially or unintentially. It's the classic grandma saying "Oh, you got a hair cut. I liked it better the other way." OK, thanks grandma! HAHA.
What you have to remember here, is you have young men and women who are one of three things.... they're possibly Coast Guard Academy hopefuls (applicants or candidates waiting to start), Coast Guard Academy cadets (who may be going through a pretty rough year and don't really like seeing what you've said about them, passively) and recent Coast Guard Academy graduates who have just endured four unpleasant years at the Coast Guard Academy. And outside of that, you'll find older (not old) graduates like me, or grads of other academies, or parents.
When I read your comments, often they're appropriate, but here and there you throw something in that leaves me scratching me head "Oh, come on... did you REALLY have to say that." And I think I'm embarrassed for the prospective cadets/current cadets/recent graduates who have to read it. And what you may not know is, we have had people here in the past that used the opportunity to ask questions, to trash one of the institutions represented on SAF.
My recommendation to you, in this forum, or on this topic, ASSUME that everything you know or think you know is wrong or ill-informed. Your lack of knowledge isn't your fault. Anytime we learn something new, something we haven't really touched before, it's helpful to just be a sponge.
I hope this makes sense to you. I could be talking in circles. It makes sense in my head, but there always a risk that me message is lost somewhere between my brain and my fingertips.