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In your case, though, both schools were aware of your situation and you had their full support. That is a very different issue than having a Plan B school on the sly and them having not agreed to it. If it is done the way that you did it, then there is no ethical issue, as you were open about your intentions, the schools agreed and in your DD's case, it was a good thing that you had the safety net in place. We did the same thing as you did, as we didn't want to chance it. We had done the same thing with our DS and were very fortunate that the Plan B school was agreeable. For the few of us on this forum who have a dissenting opinion on this topic, it is not that we feel our kids should not have a Plan B, we simply feel that it should be done in an open manner where all parties are aware and agreeable to the situation.
When I asked the question earlier if people felt it was okay to accept the appointment to multiple academies, not many people responded, but I have a hunch that most on here would NOT feel that was okay. Because many view that it would be possibly taking a slot away from other candidate, and they know just how hard each applicant had worked to get into an academy, etc., etc. Most would say the "right thing to do" would be to only accept one appointment and immediately decline the 2nd one, while at the same time, they would say it's okay to accept the "appointment" to both an academy and the civilian school, with no communication about this.
As MemberLG, Jl123 and myself have said on this thread and several other similar ones, we have a different viewpoint than many hold on this issue. I doubt anybody will change their opinion on this matter, but I feel compelled to say that all of the members of "The Service Academy Forums" do not endorse or condone the "everybody is doing it" mentality and that this is just a cut-throat business. I do believe that there SHOULD be a different policy in place with colleges to be willing to consider an academy applicant in a different light, due to the unique situation they are place in, so we don't disagree there and again, I agree with having a Plan B in place, but just doing so in an open manner.
Having been through a medical DQ for our DD after the May 1 st date with a SA, I would never look at this issue the same way as I would have before. Until it happens to you or your child, it's just an opinion. We handled this in a way that was respectful of all involved, we had the full cooperation of the two schools (one a prominent state school that is very selective and a top tier private school that had offered generous scholarships and was willing to honor that $ if needed) that were just fine to be backup plans in case a waiver didn't come through. Thankfully, waiver was granted, DD is almost through the summer and we pray no backup needs to be used!
In your case, though, both schools were aware of your situation and you had their full support. That is a very different issue than having a Plan B school on the sly and them having not agreed to it. If it is done the way that you did it, then there is no ethical issue, as you were open about your intentions, the schools agreed and in your DD's case, it was a good thing that you had the safety net in place. We did the same thing as you did, as we didn't want to chance it. We had done the same thing with our DS and were very fortunate that the Plan B school was agreeable. For the few of us on this forum who have a dissenting opinion on this topic, it is not that we feel our kids should not have a Plan B, we simply feel that it should be done in an open manner where all parties are aware and agreeable to the situation.
When I asked the question earlier if people felt it was okay to accept the appointment to multiple academies, not many people responded, but I have a hunch that most on here would NOT feel that was okay. Because many view that it would be possibly taking a slot away from other candidate, and they know just how hard each applicant had worked to get into an academy, etc., etc. Most would say the "right thing to do" would be to only accept one appointment and immediately decline the 2nd one, while at the same time, they would say it's okay to accept the "appointment" to both an academy and the civilian school, with no communication about this.
As MemberLG, Jl123 and myself have said on this thread and several other similar ones, we have a different viewpoint than many hold on this issue. I doubt anybody will change their opinion on this matter, but I feel compelled to say that all of the members of "The Service Academy Forums" do not endorse or condone the "everybody is doing it" mentality and that this is just a cut-throat business. I do believe that there SHOULD be a different policy in place with colleges to be willing to consider an academy applicant in a different light, due to the unique situation they are place in, so we don't disagree there and again, I agree with having a Plan B in place, but just doing so in an open manner.