Sealion II
DD c/o 2027
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- Oct 6, 2021
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^^^Thank you. Much appreciated. I'd love to see the tenor of letters we receive improve.
my daughter felt the 2nd set were easier, nicer - but every company is different and the plebes are in a groove. I do remember her letter saying they we're all very scared of the new detailers coming and mine loved her squad leader for first set so she was sad she was leaving.And I've heard various comment on this second slate of detainers (extending Freud comment). Are they harder, easier, different, varied, no one konws?
They came in full of energy and made an impression. It took a good week or two to understand their personalities. Each company is different and each detailer is different. Only time will tell.I've read the first set of detailer's mission is to breakdown the plebes, while, the second group's mission is to build them up and prepare them for reform. Sounds like basic training: breakdown followed by building them up the way you want them to be.
So far I have only received 1 letter from DS! But we have sent him plenty of letters and boxes! Hopefully he is okay.Roller coaster is such an appropriate title for what we are experiencing.
The letters we've been receiving have been a complete up and down read: I can't sleep. Detailer was chill today. Did I make a mistake? I want to reenact the Great Escape. What if I hate my (future) job? Today was a good day. I want this to be over. I got to play my sport today, I still got it.
My head is spinning.
Really happy to hear that she had a change of heart. She’s got this .Update - sometime between the phone call on Sunday afternoon, and Monday morning PEP, DD reported back to her original company. No details on what changed her mind. She has been battling bronchitis for several weeks, and she’s normally miserable when sick, Maybe that played a role. But, her mom and I did a great job expressing our disappointment in her during the phone call. We told her:
- you’re already through the hardest part
- stick through the first semester at a minimum (her back up school would require her to reapply as a transfer for winter semester anyways) and re-evaluate
- she’d have to work if she came home, preferably at either Amazon or Wal Mart for a lesson in hard knocks
- all of her friends will be at school, while she’s home working. She’ll be miserable.
- told her lots of people delay going to college for many good reasons. A large number never go because life happens. Better to get started
- she’ll have to go to local state U and live at home unless she takes out loans (this was her plan C anyways)
- her brother will call her Navy dropout for the rest of their lives
hang in there! they are half way done. injuries happen and they get through it. she will be ok and will love seeing you PPW. maybe you can call her friends and ask them to send a note to her - I know my girl loved it when her friends and family wrote her. it does make them smile! their feet get destroyed PS - my daughters toes looked like they were all going to peel off.....just alot of chopping and on their feet for so many hours. thinking about you and I get it - a good cry is ok!!!!PS has been very hard on me and I don’t consider myself a helicopter parent , at all. I’ve never gone this long without talking /FaceTiming / seeing one of my kids and the two eldest studied abroad during college . My plebe is very frustrated with being sick . First she was dehydrated and she doesn’t have great veins , so there was a problem with the IV and then even after three bags of fluid , she still hadn’t urinated so they kept her . She gets through that and I get a letter that she had an ingrown toenail and had to have it removed and is back on light duty . She said it was an extremely painful procedure. . Her “tribe” from high school who all swore they would write her , not one letter from any of them , so even though she is a tough cookie , you could tell by the tone of the letter she sent me that she is hurt by that . Looking at pictures online and she is sitting with the injured on the benches looking absolutely miserable . I know she wants to be marching and active . Not embarrassed to say I had a good cry this morning after seeing how unhappy she looked. Can’t wait for PPW .
... this is the right place to receive advise from parents.PS has been very hard on me and I don’t consider myself a helicopter parent , at all. I’ve never gone this long without talking /FaceTiming / seeing one of my kids and the two eldest studied abroad during college . My plebe is very frustrated with being sick . First she was dehydrated and she doesn’t have great veins , so there was a problem with the IV and then even after three bags of fluid , she still hadn’t urinated so they kept her . She gets through that and I get a letter that she had an ingrown toenail and had to have it removed and is back on light duty . She said it was an extremely painful procedure. . Her “tribe” from high school who all swore they would write her , not one letter from any of them , so even though she is a tough cookie , you could tell by the tone of the letter she sent me that she is hurt by that . Looking at pictures online and she is sitting with the injured on the benches looking absolutely miserable . I know she wants to be marching and active . Not embarrassed to say I had a good cry this morning after seeing how unhappy she looked. Can’t wait for PPW .
5 Jan by 6pmAnyone know when Plebes need to report back for Spring semester? [I assumed it was 7-Jan, but heard it's earlier.] Thank you.
I know how you may be feeling but it will get better. My plebe went MIA from pictures for over a week so I knew he was probably sick. Finally snail mail showed up, he had a bad concussion and was SIQ. I think technology and pictures are great but when we stop seeing them we get alarmed. I even made a list of possibilities of what could of happened, lol. When I realized I was obsessed looking for pictures I decided to write motivational letters instead and now wait days before I look for pictures. They are just fine and they will be taken care of, there's not much we can do other than pray and motivate them.PS has been very hard on me and I don’t consider myself a helicopter parent , at all. I’ve never gone this long without talking /FaceTiming / seeing one of my kids and the two eldest studied abroad during college . My plebe is very frustrated with being sick . First she was dehydrated and she doesn’t have great veins , so there was a problem with the IV and then even after three bags of fluid , she still hadn’t urinated so they kept her . She gets through that and I get a letter that she had an ingrown toenail and had to have it removed and is back on light duty . She said it was an extremely painful procedure. . Her “tribe” from high school who all swore they would write her , not one letter from any of them , so even though she is a tough cookie , you could tell by the tone of the letter she sent me that she is hurt by that . Looking at pictures online and she is sitting with the injured on the benches looking absolutely miserable . I know she wants to be marching and active . Not embarrassed to say I had a good cry this morning after seeing how unhappy she looked. Can’t wait for PPW .
How very kind of you to offer to write her ! She is very fortunate to have extended family and my friends write her and send packages. I think she is hurt that her friends aren’t , but I don’t think they understand the path she is on which is so different from their college experiences . DD is a very loyal person, but behind the tough exterior , she is also very sensitive and I think she is just hurt that her friends that she has always been there for seem to have forgotten her . Talking to parents who have traveled this USNA path , I don’t think it’s very unusual to grow apart from your high school friends , but I still think it stings a bit because if things were reversed , she would have written about ten letters by now .I know how you may be feeling but it will get better. My plebe went MIA from pictures for over a week so I knew he was probably sick. Finally snail mail showed up, he had a bad concussion and was SIQ. I think technology and pictures are great but when we stop seeing them we get alarmed. I even made a list of possibilities of what could of happened, lol. When I realized I was obsessed looking for pictures I decided to write motivational letters instead and now wait days before I look for pictures. They are just fine and they will be taken care of, there's not much we can do other than pray and motivate them.
Send me a DM if you would like for me to write to your DD, I don't mind to send her some extra notes and may help her see mail from someone else.
She will soon make new relationships and lifetime friendships. HS friends may be busy getting ready for college and they don't realized how different it is for academy kids. I did reached out to DS friends when he first went missing and asked them to write, 2 of them did right away. I was surprised how fast they responded, they were just busy with summer jobs.How very kind of you to offer to write her ! She is very fortunate to have extended family and my friends write her and send packages. I think she is hurt that her friends aren’t , but I don’t think they understand the path she is on which is so different from their college experiences . DD is a very loyal person, but behind the tough exterior , she is also very sensitive and I think she is just hurt that her friends that she has always been there for seem to have forgotten her . Talking to parents who have traveled this USNA path , I don’t think it’s very unusual to grow apart from your high school friends , but I still think it stings a bit because if things were reversed , she would have written about ten letters by now .